This might be a bit all over the place, I'm pretty tired but need some advice please.
DS is almost 4 months old and exclusively breastfed. He's my 3rd child, DD1 and DD2 were formula fed.
He still *what I think* cluster feeds at night. Last night for example he started to feed at 7pm. Finished at 10pm. Awake again at 11, fed for another hour. Then he fed twice more through the night but I've been co-sleeping so I can get as much rest as possible and drifting in and out of sleep so don't know how long he feeds for.
It's like this every night.
This is causing problems with DH who doesn't feel comfortable sleeping in our bed with him. I have his cot set up next to our bed but we both seem to get more rest with him sleeping next to me. He only falls asleep on boob or if he is being bounced/ rocked. Will not take a dummy and stays asleep for longer in our bed than the cot.
During the day he is too busy to feed for very long watching his sisters (2 and 4) and he also doesn't nap for very long or have set nap times. He wakes up really easily and my other kids are really noisy.
I feel like I'm all over the place. Part of me feels like a first time mum. I have no one irl to ask about bf so have just been winging it and feel like I've done it all wrong because he just seems to want to feed at night? In the beginning I fed him whenever he wanted it thinking the 'cluster feeds' would stop as he got older. Instead it's like his day feeds have dropped off and now it's just night time.
Its so hard, I put my older children to bed and then I seem to be with bub all night. Then during the day it's really hard to settle him and I feel like I'm neglecting my other kids. Always bouncing or rocking bub who only naps for 20 mins at a time. I really want to get him into some kind of routine.
DH thinks we should put him on formula because he knows it will be quicker to feed him and thinks it will keep him fuller for longer but I regretted not breastfeeding my DD's and don't want to regret putting him on formula. Also, chn has always been really happy with his weights and growth. Last check at 3 months old he weighed 7kg.
So my questions are..
Should I I express? Will it affect my supply? I don't even know how to express?? But i thought if I do atleast then DH can maybe do a couple of night feeds and DS can get used to someone else.
Do you think I should start solids, maybe that will keep him fuller for longer?
Is there a way to get him to feed more during the day and less at night? I keep offering but he'd rather just look around and giggle and then I'm busy with my other kids, time just seems to fly by..
I'm finding it really hard, my DDs were in some kind of routine earlier than this and with 3 to look after I'm feeling frustrated now that everyday is just a bit of a mess.
Hope this makes sense. Thanks for reading if you got this far. Hope someone can help?