For me, it was seeing the person I fell in the love with and the person I was letting go as two different people.
I kept holding on to the man I first met but had to realise he was not there anymore. Once I accepted this, it was a little bit more easier to let go. Perhaps not 'easier' but was able to loosen my grip a bit better!
Make sure it's all about you. You don't deserve the hurt and you need to move on to bigger and better things that you do deserve. Those things can't happen until you do let go. So be strong, be brave, be selfish! and you will be happy again one day. Love is such a beautiful, nasty, horrible, amazing, wonderful and hurtful thing! I'm not sure how we could ever work it out and not be confused.
Big hugs... handling a broken heart helps us learn how to better protect it next time 😊. Don't put it back on the shelf way up high so nobody else gets the pleasure of holding it! xxx