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    Default Just a little meltdown!

    This is more of a vent… but I welcome advice and comments!

    To keep it simple…

    DH is on a downward spiral into depression (pressures from work and a busy home life) – yes we are looking into ways to build him back up.

    DD is nearly 3 and whinges/whines aaaaallllllll day. If she isn’t whinging she is crying or having some kind of meltdown. We try our hardest not to feed into it, but it wears you down as the day goes on!

    I am finding it increasingly difficult to be supportive of DH, whilst trying to manage the LO’s and give him breaks when he needs them. I can’t tell him how I am really feeling because I don’t want him to feel guilty about not being able to ‘pull his weight’. He works hard and we are ok financially. The house we live in is high maintenance due to its age and condition, and I find it overwhelming all the things that always need to done. Unfortunately we can’t really afford to move. I think me going back to work may help both DH and me but with DS being a newbie, I’m not quite ready to do that yet.

    aahhhh...... I think I feel a little better now… thanks for reading!

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    That does sound really stressful. I can't imagine living with that much pressure. I hope the new year brings some good settling vibes to your household.

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    Sounds very overwhelming. I hope the new year is much less stressful for you. Hopefully once DS is a bit older you can go back to work even of it's for a couple of days a week and earn some money (hopefully child care costs don't eat into that too much) and you can start putting money towards a house that's much less upkeep. Hope everything works out for you and your family xx

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    hi my2monkeys, just first thing I thought of, have you had your little ones checked for any medical condition that might be behind the 'meltdowns' , ear infections? upset stomach from food ?? if there is nothing to cause a problem, then start anticipating the difficult times. have things ready for the day, have diversions ready to make the meltdowns shorter. is there anything you can do with the maintenance of the house that will help with that situation. ?? can you remove some of the clutter or even set aside one room for your dh to be able to relax in or set up a workspace that might help you or him to unwind when the stress gets too much. ? good luck with everything, Marie.

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    Thanks for the replies ladies, unfortunately today is another of those days... a whining 3 yr old and with a trip out for a coffee this morning, somebody decided my car needed a new dent in it! On the up side... I got to have a cup of coffee in air conditioning!

    Today I am grateful for the smiles I get in between the whinging!

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    My 3yo is affected by colours and different ingredients in food. Elimination diets may help you encourage good behaviour. When someone told me about it, I thought- Nope can't be the cause... But I was wrong!

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    Definitely something to think about... and having cows milk I already know does affect her behaviour... might look at eliminating all dairy to start with.. Thanks for the suggestion, I hadn't really considered diet for the latest behavioural issues.


 

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