How old is bub?
Our relationship didn't suffer, per se, but it was definitely not about us at all for the first 9 months of DSs life. DP was a little jaded I think as toby didn't want anything to do with her for the first almost year of his life! However he's 13 months old now and we are rock solid.
We've made decisions together and common goals to work towards and toby adores her, so she really gets why we did it now.
The first year is hard and it's so easy to let your relationship slip first,