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    Default Dating - how on earth do you do it?

    I've finally decided that I'd quite like to dip my toe in the dating pool and see what is out there. I am full time Mummy to my 18 month old and have no idea what to do or where to begin. You hear all sorts of terrible stories of online dating gone wrong and how do I not subject my little one to a new person while I date when I am the sole carer? I don't have any single friends so this is tricky for me. Any advice would be appreciated.

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    I'm not a single parent so I hope you don't mind me answering.

    I met DH 5 years ago on RSVP, we're now married with two kids!! I had a few dud dates before meeting him, but obviously persistence paid off.

    My advice would be to jump on a reputable dating website, chat for a week or two before arranging to meet anyone, and meet for a simple coffee, nothing prolonged for the first time. That way even if it's a total disaster it will be over very quickly!

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    Well, I bit the bullet and jumped online to see what all the fuss was about. Ended up with sleazy msg's from an array of men with no teeth and no ability to spell

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    Default Dating - how on earth do you do it?

    It's definitely hard to date as a single parent. I tried the Internet thing and it didn't really work for me. I live in a rural area, with lots of young families or empty nesters. The town I work in is has a lot of welfare dependent people. Eligible bachelors are few and far between.

    In the past I've relied on family and friends to babysit while I went on dates. But I feel like I have filled my quota of 'favours' and don't want to out stay me welcome, if you know what I mean.

    I've now put dating in the 'too hard' basket and I have given up for the moment.

    Sorry my post is less than helpful.
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    Good on you for wanting to get out there again! What about those meetup groups that have some activities for single parents?

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    I'm in the same position, I have my son 100% and going on dates isn't easy however I do recommend eharmony it has better quality men and people who are serious about dating. Good luck

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    I meet my husband on oasis (online dating site).
    He's the most decent guy I've ever met. But I have also meet heaps of weirdos.

    Maybe join some classes?

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    Online dating is the way to go. You can chat for a while before you meet up and weed out a lot of unsuccessful candidates.
    I met my husband on RSVP and have about half a dozen girlfriends who met their DH/DP's on RSVP.

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    I'm not a single parent so I hope you don't mind. ... But I also met my husband online. On a dating site. I got my share of dodgy weirdo messages.... plus a few bum dates. One guy I did date for a couple of months. .. But that didn't work out. Then my now husband messaged me. .. We chatted for a few weeks. ..met up. .. Now we're married over 5 years with one daughter.
    My brother is a single dad with 3 teenage girls. .. He just met a lovely woman online too. They've been dating for more than 6 months. There are some great people out there. I hope you find some potential nice guys!

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    I'm also wondering the same thing op. I've been separated for 2 years, divorced for 8 months and have a 3 yo DD who was 13 months when I was left a single mum.
    I met exDH online and there's no way in hell I'm going down that road again.

    I believe that at the right time I'll meet my soulmate and it's meant to be.
    Sorry I'm not much help either but for me going out looking won't find him. It'll be when I least expect it and it'll be at the supermarket, or pool, or a friend of a friend type of thing etc etc.

    Before online dating existed people with kids found new relationships and I'm a bit old fashioned.

    Good luck. Soon enough you'll meet the right one.

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