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    So DS is the first grand child on my DHs side. DH has always called his parents by their first names. Because they taught him to obviously.

    Now they are very insistent that DS who is 20mo to call them by their first names.

    Not sure why but it bugs me heaps! I found it so weird that they don't want a special name...

    What do you think? Why would they want this? Maybe because they are young (55 and 57yo).
    I feel like teaching DS to call them something else

    They live in France so the only interaction is a weekly Skype call.

    It's probably my issue though, I don't know why it's bothering me so much...!
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    It's weird to me because 'back in my day' calling older adults by their first name was considered rude. I think it's your hubby's call.

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    I think if your DH has always called them by their names and they want the same for their grandchild, you need to respect their wishes.

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    It wouldn't bother me. I would just go with what they want to be called.
    I find it odd to call anyone Mr or Mrs or Aunt or Uncle and do not encourage it so I am rather laid back with names.

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    It wouldn't bother me. My parents are young grandparents (49 and 52 when they had their first grandchild) and my dad could not decided what to be called. I actually suggested that he just go by his first name if he felt more comfortable with that. Honestly as long as they aren't asked to be called mum and dad I don't give a shiz at all.

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    My children sort of call FIL by his first name. They call him poppy jeff

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    I don't know, I think it's up to parents and grandparents to decide for themselves what they want to be called.

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    I would let them be called what ever they want (with the exception of when some grandmother's want to be called mama or something similar to mum).

    My kids call my dads wife (my step mum) by her first name. It was her decision, she refused to be acknowledged in any way as a grandmother (which suits me fine as I dont acknowledge her as any relation to me any more!). And my dh's step dad (who my dh refers to as his dad) is Poppy *first name*. Again, that was his choice, its what his biological grandkids call him so he asked us if we minded which of course we didnt. Mil said she was too young to be grandma so she insisted on being nonna but ended up being nanna.

    I asked my mum if she would mind if our kids calles her nanny. This is what I called mums mum and given the relationship we had, mum felt it an honour to be following that path. My step dad wanted to be called Cuzy Bro (his sense of humour....), but he ended up being Pa. My bio dad chose Pop.

    My great grandparents are Grandy, Grandma and Grandpa to the kids and dh's grandmother is Banana because thats what we know them as.

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    I agree with you totally. DH calls his grandparents by their first name, as well as all his aunts and uncles. I boggled at it at first because it's just not done in my family. At all. I'm European - we just don't do that, man! So it totally bothers me.

    That said, we (mostly) left it up to the grandparents to decide what they wanted to be called. They were quite happy to be granddad and grandma.

    Or whatever DS ended up calling them when he started to talk. I think that'll probably end up being the deciding factor. If your DS decides to call them by anything but their names, it's not like they'll be able to do anything about it. At the end of the day, they're hardly going to be able to constantly correct a stubborn toddler!

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    I always called my grandfather by his first name. All of the grandkids did. He didn't like pop or grandpa etc so just preferred his first name. So when we were visiting our grandparents we were going to nana & George's. I never thought anything of it. I don't think it's a big deal If that's what they prefer to be called, it's kind of their choice really.

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