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    Default My first pregnancy - questions about scans and telling family

    Hi everyone, I am 8 weeks pregnant after having three IUIs and one IVF cycle. I had a scan at 6 weeks and 6 days which showed a heart beat. I always planned to wait until after 12 weeks to tell people but since it's christmas next week I thought it was an ideal time to tell the family. I am scared it's too early...thoughts? I have been keeping this a secret for a year and have gone through ivf without telling them. I don't know if I would tell them if we miscarried or not. Hard to know how I would feel.

    Also, I'm a bit confused about who I talk to from here. The fertility clinic is done with me so I don't think I can ask them questions now. I can't get into my GP for a couple of weeks. I have an appointment with a birth centre at a hospital in mid feb. I am wondering when the next scan would be? I wish I could have one right now so I could check again before Christmas!! I am not sure if I am meant to have any more scans before feb? I think there was mention of 10 weeks or something?

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    Default My first pregnancy - questions about scans and telling family

    Congratulations

    I personally waited till after my 12 week nt scan before telling people. My first pregnancy did end in mc which I found out was inevitable at a scan in week 9 and mc then in week 12.... I hate being pessimistic but if u wouldn't tell them if u mc I would wait till 12. At least then you know things are looking good at 12 week mark

    I would assume when u get into gp they will book your 12 week scan
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    Congratulations!! What wonderful news for you to finish off the year!

    We told ppl almost immediately. If we did have an mc they would have been to same ppl we leant on for support.

    Seeing a healthy heartbeat is the first step to imply a wonderfully healthy bub. So really it's up to you. There isn't any real rules about who and when. Personally I just couldn't wait to share the news and was so excited I would have burst if we had held onto that for any longer.

    Re the scans. Ur gp is the next step. They will either refer you the hospital for midwifery care or do shared care between ur GP and the hospital.

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    I agree with pp on waiting til 12w
    I won't go into details, but I would have disappointed everyone if I had told them after seeing a hb at 6w

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    We told immediate family straight away. We were 5 weeks.
    I would have wanted support if I had a mc.
    They were under instruction not to say anything and they didn't for the most part.
    I told work and friends at 14 weeks.
    Do whatever feels right to you. As we see on here all the time, there is no one size fits all.

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    Bear in mind that even your family cannot be trusted to tell everyone and the news will get out. You would have to explain a MC to more than just your family. Since you are unsure how you would feel like that I wouldn't.

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    I tell as soon as I know. It's just who I am and there was no hiding my morning sickness from anyone. It kicked in at 6 weeks and has been relentless since so trying to hide it was fruitless. Do what you're comfortable with.

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    It's a very personal thing, it's your call.

    No way in hell I would tell anyone before the 12 week scan. I am a private person and if I were to miscarry I wouldn't want to have to deal with anyone, not even close family.

    My parents couldn't be trusted with a secret, I have no doubt they would blab to their close friends and siblings. They announced my first sons birth on social media before I even had a chance to tell bubs godparents. That's why they are now the last people I tell anything to.

    Regarding the appointments I wouldn't panic. Seeing your doc in a couple of weeks is fine. You will just need to make sure that when you get your referral for the 12 week scan you book it right away.
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