Last edited by VicPark; 20-12-2014 at 09:19.
Where is the evidence that states EVERY six month old baby without medical problems is capable of sleeping through? That's a wildly generalising statement to make from someone who isn't a medical/infant professional. Sleeping through the night is a developmental milestone. That's like saying ALL children should be crawling at exactly X months, walking at exactly X months, talking at exactly X months- it's wrong, and guess what? Throwing out statements like that is damaging to new mothers.
OP, I struggled with my DS1's 2-3 hour night waking until he self-weaned one day at 15 months and slept 12 hours that night. I wish so much I could back in time and tell myself to let go and enjoy. My DS2 is 3 months and still night waking and I'm adjusting my life around him.
Why can't you accept that there are actually people that are perfectly okay with babies that wake during the night? Coming from a person that has been fortunate enough to have two babies sleeping through from an early age, I think your above comments are bordering on scare mongering.
Fortune had nothing at all to do with both my babies sleeping through ... If I was more sensitive I would be a little offended by that flippant comment.
- Both my boys are different and had different journeys that led them to sleeping through. Research, research, research...trying new things... routine, nipping each new anomaly in the bud before it became a big problem... Plain hard work ...was they key.
I am more than happy to step out if this thread however if people quote my posts asking questions or throwing around terms like BS and scaremongering then I will respond.
Nice thread OP - maybe we can keep it that way hey?
Accepting that my baby was not a sleeper and that that was normal for her, was the best thing I ever did as a parent. Fighting her and trying to fit her into a mould that she was never going to fit into hugely contributed to my anxiety and PND and once I let go things were better.
Thanks everyone for sharing your stories of your less than perfect sleepers. I'm half tempted to start a light hearted spin off thread focusing on some of the good points our little night owls or frequent wakers.
For example, dd isn't a perfect sleeper but she greets me every morning with a giant smile that makes my day.
I really do feel like a huge weight has been lifted from my shoulders by just accepting our current normal and having you all reassure me this version of normal is normal for others as well has made it even better!
Last edited by BettyV; 20-12-2014 at 11:36.
So for a good point - his 2.30am sleepy smiles and cuddles melt my heart
Last edited by Pearlygirl; 20-12-2014 at 12:06.
I'm on my way to a family Christmas function and I'm dreading the sleep questions, which I'm sure ill be asked. @Pearlygirl I agree- can't we just let babies be babies? Why is everyone so obsessed with "fixing" them? My children will sleep, walk, talk, and run when they are ready to.
Ah, OP. I spent the first 8 months of DD's life obsessing over her sleep. I threw out the sleep books at that point in time; their suggestions didn't work for DD or didn't fit with my parenting priorities and were causing me considerable anxiety. She still isn't much of a sleeper at 22 months, but we have embraced our '24 hour parenting'. Yes, we are tired, and we can't wait to have more sleep, but we also know that that day will eventually come. We are happily cosleeping until she is cognitively and emotionally ready to transition to independent sleeping using positive strategies, without distress. It's more of a priority at this time that she feel safe and builds trust in us, and if I'm honest, we're also too tired to keep fighting! We all sleep better when we snuggle! And I agree, it is beautiful to wake up with DD, and this time is fleeting. We have a very independent DD who very soon will want to sleep on her own. I definitely won't look back on these years and regret not leaving her to cry at night, I can tell you!!
It was such a weight off our shoulders to accept this as part of our parenting role.
Last edited by ABigDeepBreath; 20-12-2014 at 13:40.
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