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    Default She's not a "good" sleeper (vent)

    Let me just start this by saying I'm not looking for advice on how to turn Dd into a good sleeper. I just wanted to get these thoughts out for me and also in the outside chance they might help someone else too .
    I think it's time for me to face facts. My Dd is not one of those magical sleeps through the night babies. Sure when everything is going perfectly she can be a one wake a night baby but things rarely go perfectly. I'm sick of going to bed hoping that tonight will be the night she sleeps well, or sleeps through even, just to have my hopes dashed. It's too much pressure and it leads to disappointment and resentment. I'm going to accept that my baby is a baby that wakes every 3 hours if she's teething, having a rough week, has a cold, gets wind or heaven forbid just needs her mother. Not all adults sleep well so why should we expect all babies will? This is our normal and that's okay. Am I tired? Yes but this too will pass. So next time someone asks how she sleeps I'm going to smile and say "like a baby." because every baby is different and some of them sleep like this.

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    I hear ya!

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    It doesn't always help when you're up for the third time in as many hours overnight, but doing the same thing and just 'letting go' has been one of the best things for my sanity.

    Accepting my new normal and not fighting it has made such a difference. I only wish I had done it earlier with DD1.

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    My dd is nearly 3 and isn't a good sleeper, but neither am I! I've tried everything and now I'm pregnant again, I'm going to just go with the flow and accept that my eldest has sleep issues. Maybe the second one will be different, we'll see....

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    Don't know if this helps but Instead of hoping for a good night and then being disappointed, I've started going to bed expecting a bad night. So then if I end up getting a good night it makes me happy it has helped me heaps. Good luck, bad sleepers are hard work but like you said not all babies are the same!

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    How old is bub? I'm a firm believer that in bubs 6 months+ unless there are medical issues most babies are capable of sleeping through. It's a case of the parents doing some digging into the causes for the waking and implementing an appropriate solution. Whether or not that solution is in line with your parenting philosophy is another issue.

    I know you weren't after solutions however I suppose my message is if you are open minded don't give up trying to get bub to sleep through.

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    I think this thread was meant to be about embracing it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by HollyGolightly81 View Post
    I think this thread was meant to be about embracing it.
    I get that however sometimes I think the 'embrace it' message, although well intended, and although it might make people feel good in the short run... Sets people up for unnecessary and avoidable hardship in the long run.
    Last edited by VicPark; 20-12-2014 at 07:31.

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    Quote Originally Posted by VicPark View Post
    I get that however sometimes I think the 'there's nothing you can do so just accept it' message, although well intended, and although it might make people feel good in the short run... Sets people up for unnecessary and avoidable hardship in the long run.
    Does it matter though? It's her life and her baby, she's specified that she's not asking for advice, just embracing her not so good sleeper. There really isn't anything wrong with that. If anything, it's great that the OP has come to a decision and is content with it. A thread like this may even help a mum struggling with a run of broken sleep to look at it from a different perspective and find peace instead of trying to fit the mould.

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    Quote Originally Posted by redlipsandpearls View Post
    Does it matter though? It's her life and her baby, she's specified that she's not asking for advice, just embracing her not so good sleeper. There really isn't anything wrong with that. If anything, it's great that the OP has come to a decision and is content with it. A thread like this may even help a mum struggling with a run of broken sleep to look at it from a different perspective and find peace instead of trying to fit the mould.
    I get what you are saying and yes if the OP is OK with having a night waker then of course that's ok. If the OPs parenting style is not in line with things that can help a bub sleep through then that's ok too.

    A thread like this could help a new mother... However it can also do damage ... By stopping a new mum from seeking help... By encouraging a new mum to accept that her bub won't sleep through when unless medical issues are involved this is rarely the case. That's why I thought it important to speak up. I wasn't trying to be nasty to the OP sorry if it came accross that way. I've said my piece I will bow out now.

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