Let me just start this by saying I'm not looking for advice on how to turn Dd into a good sleeper. I just wanted to get these thoughts out for me and also in the outside chance they might help someone else too .
I think it's time for me to face facts. My Dd is not one of those magical sleeps through the night babies. Sure when everything is going perfectly she can be a one wake a night baby but things rarely go perfectly. I'm sick of going to bed hoping that tonight will be the night she sleeps well, or sleeps through even, just to have my hopes dashed. It's too much pressure and it leads to disappointment and resentment. I'm going to accept that my baby is a baby that wakes every 3 hours if she's teething, having a rough week, has a cold, gets wind or heaven forbid just needs her mother. Not all adults sleep well so why should we expect all babies will? This is our normal and that's okay. Am I tired? Yes but this too will pass. So next time someone asks how she sleeps I'm going to smile and say "like a baby." because every baby is different and some of them sleep like this.