Thank you so much everyone, your advice has been wonderful!
I am feeling much better about it all.
She is such a lovely person, so caring and considerate.
I just couldn't picture how it would affect me if it was me in her shoes,
it would be ignorant of me to pretend that I could. I could only try to imagine.
Again, thank you so much! Armed with your advice, I am going to be the friend that she deserves