I don't know what to do. DH son smokes pot, he know we know, doesn't care and now is doing on the porch. When I expressed my dislike, DH says if I tell him not to do it he will anyway and we were young once. Everyone in his family has or still smokes and we are talking ppl into their 60's, except DH, he quit smoking cigarettes and pot before me. His son stopped going to college for a degree and switch to part time nights, doesn't work, doesn't do a thing to help. In past relationships I've learned that when you are honest about your feelings about children, all hell breaks loose and relationships ended. I don't know what to do. Any advise would be appreciated.