My DHs grandfather has passed away overseas where he lives. I've asked DH if he would like DD 2 years old and I to fly over with him to the funeral and he's said no we don't have to. I don't know if he really doesn't want us to go or maybe he's concerned the flights for all of us will cost too much; maybe he just wants to spend time with people who knew his grandfather. I'm not sure what the etiquette is, obviously we would attend the funeral if he lived close by. Should I insist on going with DH; will his family be offended if I don't go? What would you do?