Nomsie I feel your pain about weaning was coming on here to have vent about how difficult it is! DS2 is 19 months (similar to your DD from memory) and I started to try and wean him yesterday. This isn't our first attempt. I've been pregnant and breast feeding for 4.5 years-feed DS1 while I was preg with DS2 and I'm done! I'm working two nifty shifts over the weekend so hoping that will help. If your mum can have your boys and DD I say go for it!
Have you tried anything yet?
ETA: My friend is worked with the "don't offer but don't refuse" method. She never offered him (2) a bf, but if he asked she would't say no.
After 2 weeks of that, she dropped the morning feed- she would get up before him and shower/dress and have his breakfast ready. As there was an alternative readily available he usually took it. If he refused and asked for a bf, she would say, "Oh but your breakfast is here and mummy is dressed and ready to go out now. I'm just waiting for you." then she would take him out for even 15 minutes. Anything to distract him from the bf. After a few days he stopped asking for it.
She's working on dropping the afternoon one now, in pretty much the same manner- starting back at "don't offer but don't refuse" and will then distract.
Last edited by DT75; 29-01-2015 at 20:33.
I don't want to ask mum because she already does a lot for me. I don't want to push it.
A big part of the problem is that dd still feeds a lot overnight. As in, around midnight I get in bed with her and god knows how long and how often she feeds. I certainly don't. But it's a lot.
Have I tried? Yes. Several times. Starting when she was 15 months. She is nearly 18 months now. As I type this I'm heading into her room to feed her again- the third time since she was put to bed because its effective in ensuring she goes straight back to sleep. I have tried no overnight feeds but she is so determined and she screams. A lot. Loudly. And wakes everyone up. It's not cool when her brothers have to go to school.
I've tried don't offer don't refuse. To make up for me not offering, she started asking for more. I've tried distraction. Sometimes it works. Every other time it results in meltdown. I've tried offering alternative. Water. Water in a pretty cup. Water in a big girl cup. Milk. Warned milk. Hot milk. I even let her try some milo.
Like I said- she is stubborn and knows what she wants.
I didn't mean to be. It would be nice if it was as simple as "voila!"
But I reckon if you said "mum I'm struggling. I've tried x y z and none of it's working can you help" she would. It sounds like quite a mumsy thing to do. And the sort of thing a mum would do for her daughter and a nan would do for her granddaughter.
I love the fact that you describe your daughter as determined! She will grow up to be amazing x
Nomsie, I am going through the same. DS2 is so stubborn. He is pretty good during the day but overnight he wakes up and comes into my bed, between that time and when we get up he'll be on and off and screams if we try to put him back to his bed without bf. He has just turned 2.
There is no chocolate in the house... It's been another one of those days and I need chocolate but I decided not to buy any "if we don't buy it we can't have it" I said. What was I thinking because not I don't really like past me very much.
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