Im just freaked out that I wont be supported - when I have said to people that im going so that im not trying to do it on my own, ill have supoort from the nurses, people have gone 'hmm, somewhat'. Which makes me feel like ill be left alone with him screaming hysterically
They won't do that.
Look, it's not a magic pill. It might not woke miracles. But they won't leave you alone if something like that is happening. They won't force you to leave him to cry. It's hard to predict how a baby will adapt to a change of scenery as well, so he may not get hysterical.
My DS spends all day at CC without his dummy. The second I pick him up he looks at me and is instantly bleating for his dummy. Different circumstances produce different behaviour. I'm not saying this is your fault or your husband's fault, but please try and think positively. If nothing else it's a couple of nights where you are not doing it alone.
So what happened with the person who came to your house? Did they get him sleeping? What changed?
Harvs we reduced his awake time which has helped a tiny bit but he still wont go to sleep for me without rocking. She stepped us through slowly & dh was able to get him down with the shush pat method in the cot, but im still on the rocking.
Ok. It does take time but two weeks should've made a difference. I can't remember exactly where I saw it but there's a graphic on the net which shows optimal time for sleep training. There's no point doing it when they are about to enter a wonder week for example, or when they go into their separation anxiety phase because it simply won't work.
I wonder if he's in that phase atm?
Im not sure if he's in a phase, ill try to find the graph
I was in the exact same situation as you heartstringz. I could have written your posts word for word it's actually spooky. My currently 4.5 month old dd was a nightmare. The nurses at sleep school said she was one of the most difficult babies they'd seen in a while. But after 3 days at karitane we got her into a routine and although when we left she was still difficult but greatly improved, i stuck to their advice....And it's like i have a new baby.
The fantastic thing about sleep school is the nurses will teach you strategies but also set a routine which is just as important. You need to be committed to continuing the strategies and routine at home for continued improvement.
Please do pursue this path. I was sceptical like you as I used to have to rock my hysterical baby to sleep..blood curdling screams every single night and day, cosleep with her on me and she'd still wake every hour to two hours screaming. After sleep school she sleeps 3 to 4 hours in her cot, wakes for a bf and goes straight back to sleep, settles with the dummy and gentle patting, has proper naps and is much happier. And so are we. Please call them and tell them the severity of your babies issues. I did this and was in within the fortnight...i'm so grateful for the help i received. I'll never forget it.
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