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    Quote Originally Posted by Kimberleygal1 View Post
    Exactly this.

    I have done both, had my child in care while I work and had my child home with me while I am not working. Personally I don't feel comfortable with or the need to have my child in daycare if I am not working nor do I feel the need to keep my child in daycare when he doesn't need to be there due to the risk of losing his spot and there is only 1 daycare in the town we live so there's a huge risk it would happen. But that's just me and a risk I have taken more than once.

    My children have thrived at daycare and they have thrived whilst at home with me. Whatever works at the time. I don't believe one is necessarily better than the other, kids adjust to the circumstances.
    Thankyou this is the view I was trying express but people have taken offense to it

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    Quote Originally Posted by Molros View Post
    Not everyone has this option....you should not be so judgemental and perhaps take into consideration that not everyone is able to do what you perceive as being 'right'. Your comments have really annoyed me.....who are you to make the call on what is right or wrong for our children not knowing individual circumstances or even the options available to each person? How very narrow minded and judgemental you sound.
    are you saying that it is not best for your child to be in your care? Because that is what I am hearing parents are saying it is better for thier child to be in child care than at home with them . I know that if u don't have the option then fair enough but still I know my child is better at home with me but he is in care 3 days a week as I work and childcare is the second best option for me I am offended that people are saying childcare is the best option when they do have the chance to stay home . This post has really opened my eyes
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    Quote Originally Posted by bobjane12 View Post
    Thankyou this is the view I was trying express but people have taken offense to it
    To be fair I don't think you really know what you're trying to express, your posts are all over the shop. No offence.

    Interesting first 11 posts you've posted on the forum though....

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    This sort of thing really riles me up. DD (3.5) has remained in daycare 3 days a week while I have been on maternity leave. She loves it - she learns a lot, plays a lot, does soccer, has friends and loves her teachers. Why would I take that away from her just because I'm not at work? She craves interaction with other kids. I can't give her that at home the way daycare can. She needed a break from being home with a newborn and I wanted to have one on one with DS, just as I did with DD.

    I believe that children thrive when raised in a 'village'. They learn about community, diversity, how to conduct themselves in different environments and social awareness. They learn different things from different people, making them more rounded. Daycare isn't the only way to achieve these things but for a lot of people (like in my case) there is no family around to help care for the child or cousins to play with, so daycare is an important part of the village.

    My kids get good quality time with us at home and quality care at daycare. I get frustrated with the idea that parenting is all about proximity. I don't need to have my child with me all day every day to be parenting them well. Guiding them as they participate in the world is just as important as having them with me at home.

    Oh and, shock horror, DS (7mo) has just started 2 days a week too, and I'm not back at work yet! I had no choice if I wanted to get him in the same centre and same days that DD is in as its a great centre with long wait lists. I will use the time for study and life admin until I return to work later in the year.

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    My children are better off if they go to daycare once a week even when I don't work. It means I can have 1 day a week in town and get all my jobs done instead of having to break it up into 2 or 3 days with at least 2 hours car travel each time. I then have more time at home with them to play and do housework.

    There. I said it. And now I'm the worst mother in the world.

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    2 of my DDs go to daycare 3 days per week. When I go on mat leave I plan on keeping them in for the same amount of days. They get a lot out of daycare and it will give me time to catch up on sleep and things around the house.

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    Quote Originally Posted by bobjane12 View Post
    are you saying that it is not best for your child to be in your care? Because that is what I am hearing parents are saying it is better for thier child to be in child care than at home with them . I know that if u don't have the option then fair enough but still I know my child is better at home with me but he is in care 3 days a week as I work and childcare is the second best option for me I am offended that people are saying childcare is the best option when they do have the chance to stay home . This post has really opened my eyes
    Where in my post did I write that it is not best for my child to be in my care. You come across as judging when for some people that might be the only option. Working parents can already feel bad about it and posts implying they are doing wrong by their child are not helpful. When I fall pregnant with no 2 I shall be keeping my DD in daycare as I had to put her on the list when I was four mths pregnant.....she doesn't start until January 2016. And shock horror, I have to work full time so I must be an awful mother, putting the need to provide for her above her wellbeing. Not everyone has the same options available to them. As for parents putting their child in daycare when they don't work, have you ever considered that doing that might give them a break they need to get through the rest of the week? Don't be so quick to pass comment when you don't know the reasons behind some people's actions....

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    Quote Originally Posted by amyd View Post
    My children are better off if they go to daycare once a week even when I don't work. It means I can have 1 day a week in town and get all my jobs done instead of having to break it up into 2 or 3 days with at least 2 hours car travel each time. I then have more time at home with them to play and do housework.

    There. I said it. And now I'm the worst mother in the world.
    I'm standing right beside you - can we share the cap? I left my son in daycare when DD was born - clearly I'm some sort of terrible mother as I couldn't cope with a 3 1/2 yo and a newborn and juggle some part time work (needed the money, work from home stuff) and my own health issues. I used to book all my specialists and tests on days he was at care so as not to drag two kids, one who couldn't sit still, to 50 million appts. Plus we would have lost his spot, which meant DD would have lost hers when the time came as well (sibling preference etc) and life would have been impossible to manage.

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    Default Reducing days whilst on maternity leave

    Who cares what others think about your choices?

    My kids use family day care. When I had DD and was on 12 months maternity leave I kept DS in FDC as there was no way I was going to risk losing his spot with that carer who was wonderful.

    I could care less if anyone thought that was a bad thing!

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    DS1 is currently in daycare 3 days a week while I work part-time. When DS2 arrives later this year, we fully intend to keep him in (but may have to drop down to 2 days for cost reasons).

    He loves daycare, has a great relationship with his carers, enjoys playing with the other kids and gets to do lots of fun activities (which would be harder to do at home with a newborn). And I can't see any good reason to take him out for 9 to 12 months, then have to resettle him again when I return to work.

    It'll give me a chance to spend some one-on-one time with DS2, get shopping/errands down without the stress of towing around two kids, and who knows, I may even get a chance to have a quick nap and try to catch up some precious sleep on those days.

    I see it as an investment in sanity for both myself and DS1!

    Frankly I don't really care if anyone else has a problem with that arrangement. I'm old enough now to realise that there's always going to be someone who believes they know better. If it works for us, that's all that matters to me.


 

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