Last edited by bobjane12; 19-02-2015 at 06:12.
This sort of thing really riles me up. DD (3.5) has remained in daycare 3 days a week while I have been on maternity leave. She loves it - she learns a lot, plays a lot, does soccer, has friends and loves her teachers. Why would I take that away from her just because I'm not at work? She craves interaction with other kids. I can't give her that at home the way daycare can. She needed a break from being home with a newborn and I wanted to have one on one with DS, just as I did with DD.
I believe that children thrive when raised in a 'village'. They learn about community, diversity, how to conduct themselves in different environments and social awareness. They learn different things from different people, making them more rounded. Daycare isn't the only way to achieve these things but for a lot of people (like in my case) there is no family around to help care for the child or cousins to play with, so daycare is an important part of the village.
My kids get good quality time with us at home and quality care at daycare. I get frustrated with the idea that parenting is all about proximity. I don't need to have my child with me all day every day to be parenting them well. Guiding them as they participate in the world is just as important as having them with me at home.
Oh and, shock horror, DS (7mo) has just started 2 days a week too, and I'm not back at work yet! I had no choice if I wanted to get him in the same centre and same days that DD is in as its a great centre with long wait lists. I will use the time for study and life admin until I return to work later in the year.
My children are better off if they go to daycare once a week even when I don't work. It means I can have 1 day a week in town and get all my jobs done instead of having to break it up into 2 or 3 days with at least 2 hours car travel each time. I then have more time at home with them to play and do housework.
There. I said it. And now I'm the worst mother in the world.
2 of my DDs go to daycare 3 days per week. When I go on mat leave I plan on keeping them in for the same amount of days. They get a lot out of daycare and it will give me time to catch up on sleep and things around the house.
Who cares what others think about your choices?
My kids use family day care. When I had DD and was on 12 months maternity leave I kept DS in FDC as there was no way I was going to risk losing his spot with that carer who was wonderful.
I could care less if anyone thought that was a bad thing!
DS1 is currently in daycare 3 days a week while I work part-time. When DS2 arrives later this year, we fully intend to keep him in (but may have to drop down to 2 days for cost reasons).
He loves daycare, has a great relationship with his carers, enjoys playing with the other kids and gets to do lots of fun activities (which would be harder to do at home with a newborn). And I can't see any good reason to take him out for 9 to 12 months, then have to resettle him again when I return to work.
It'll give me a chance to spend some one-on-one time with DS2, get shopping/errands down without the stress of towing around two kids, and who knows, I may even get a chance to have a quick nap and try to catch up some precious sleep on those days.
I see it as an investment in sanity for both myself and DS1!
Frankly I don't really care if anyone else has a problem with that arrangement. I'm old enough now to realise that there's always going to be someone who believes they know better. If it works for us, that's all that matters to me.
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