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    Quote Originally Posted by VicPark View Post
    Anything less than 2 days could be quite disruptive for your child.

    Bobjane. That's a rather narrow view. I'm sure if you put your thinking cap on you could come up with some reasons why stay at home parents may want their child in care a couple of days per week. I've just thought of 5 in the space of 15 seconds let me know if you need a hand.
    I understand there are many reasons but what I am saying is if you have say 6 months off work to have a second baby why wouldn't you keep your first born home with you ? I can now see that loosing a spot at a childcare centre seems to be the main reason . Children are only young once and I just feel this time off work could be very special for everyone involved.

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    Quote Originally Posted by bobjane12 View Post
    I understand there are many reasons but what I am saying is if you have say 6 months off work to have a second baby why wouldn't you keep your first born home with you ? I can now see that loosing a spot at a childcare centre seems to be the main reason . Children are only young once and I just feel this time off work could be very special for everyone involved.
    1. Might lose Childcare spot
    2. Taking your child out of daycare altogether and then putting them back in 6 months later could be very disruptive to the child. Children thrive on routine not flip flopping back and forth between two models of care.
    3. Having a newborn and a toddler is bloody hard work. Having your toddler remain in daycare for a couple of days can help you bond with bub and prevent you from going nuts due to looking after a baby and a toddler 24/7
    4. Because daycare can do some pretty cool educational stuff that you won't have the time to do with a newborn
    5. Your toddler might have socialization issues or behavioral issues and your GP recommends they remain in daycare a couple of days to help

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    I have 12 months off and probably could get my son back into daycare for his two days, but I haven't taken him out. He's been with the same group of kids since he started at 18 months and has made some great friends. If I take him out, they will continue to be together and he will miss out on those special relationships. Also, he loves it! It's been so great for him and even though I don't need him to go, he loves it and I love having one on one time with #2. He is generally not there for longer than 8 hours when I work because I work as a teacher close by. While I'm on leave, I'm dropping him off a bit later but picking him up at usual time, otherwise he misses out on afternoon tea and he hates that!!! One time I left work early and called in to pick him up and then had to stay and wait around for arvo tea cause he was so excited about eating the muffins they had made - I didn't have the heart to make him miss out

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    Quote Originally Posted by VicPark View Post
    1. Might lose Childcare spot
    2. Taking your child out of daycare altogether and then putting them back in 6 months later could be very disruptive to the child. Children thrive on routine not flip flopping back and forth between two models of care.
    3. Having a newborn and a toddler is bloody hard work. Having your toddler remain in daycare for a couple of days can help you bond with bub and prevent you from going nuts due to looking after a baby and a toddler 24/7
    4. Because daycare can do some pretty cool educational stuff that you won't have the time to do with a newborn
    5. Your toddler might have socialization issues or behavioral issues and your GP recommends they remain in daycare a couple of days to help
    ^^^All of this!!!

    Keeping DS in childcare when I had a new born was the best for everyone. Plus it meant priority when needing a spot for DS2.
    The best bit for me was the one on one bonding with bub and knowing DS1 was happy as Larry learning and playing with his friends!

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    Trip trap trip trap...

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    Quote Originally Posted by babyla View Post
    Trip trap trip trap...
    Who would have the time for pulling that trip trap? Crap...

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    Quote Originally Posted by VicPark View Post
    Who would have the time for pulling that trip trap? Crap...
    Yeah I know. Desperate isn't it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by bobjane12 View Post
    I understand there are many reasons but what I am saying is if you have say 6 months off work to have a second baby why wouldn't you keep your first born home with you ? I can now see that loosing a spot at a childcare centre seems to be the main reason . Children are only young once and I just feel this time off work could be very special for everyone involved.
    My DD is in three days a week. She's three. She does fun activities, learns new things and socialises with her friends who she loves. I get to focus on DS and give him the same attention I gave DD when she was little.

    The other two days a week I focus on both of them and I can focus on providing her fun activities at home.

    Honestly I think we both look forward to daycare days.

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    Quote Originally Posted by bobjane12 View Post
    I understand there are many reasons but what I am saying is if you have say 6 months off work to have a second baby why wouldn't you keep your first born home with you ? I can now see that loosing a spot at a childcare centre seems to be the main reason . Children are only young once and I just feel this time off work could be very special for everyone involved.
    It seems that you have a very narrow minded view of this. Perhaps you might change your mind if you actually have children as in my experience, it does change your view of things. Thanks god the workers at my day care do not have this attitude.

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    Obviously I am very strange I thought going on mat leave and keeping my daughter home with me for the 6 months was the normal thing to do . I actually never even thought of keeping her in care . Yes it was very hard work a newborn and a 2 year old very very hard work lol but everyone will do what they think is right for them sorry if I offended anyone .


 

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