So my ds is a quiet beautiful gentle soul. He has bee going to daycare 2 days a week for about 14 months as I work those days...
He has bee doing reasonably well. Doesn't cry when left and starting to eat-sleep much better. The only thing I have noticed is that when they put photos of the kids up during the day, he doesn't really participate in the group activities... A teacher literally has to hold his ham through it or he gets up to play with something else.
He is not terrible at following instructions but not brilliant either. His speech was slightly delayed but I think it is improving as well.
We also attend a playgroup once a week with other kids and it is a structured day with inside play, story/singing time, craft then outside time. I have noticed he generally likes to do his own thing and if a more outgoing child is playing in his space he just stands to the side with the thumb in.
I never was to worried until his daycare leader pulled me aside to ask if I have noted that he isn't incredibly social and that e hasn't made any real connections at daycare. I told her we are going to start a third day in January and that when it's one on one he has great friends and get along great... He just seems to be really shy and not assertive in group situations.
We spoke and she agreed we should wait 3-6 months to see how the extra day goes.... However I have to confess I am a bit heart broken.
I was really shy and Not confident when he was born an coupled I didn't have a car I really didn't get out much. I didn't have many friends at school and preferred my own company and was generally miserable and feel like I have doomed him to this as well.
Reading the above does anyone have a similar experience and if so is there anything you can suggest that may help him socialise better? I was looking into Gymbaroo but we do not have much extra income so I'm just not sure...