My partner's father and step mum have recently moved into a new house, they have a back yard pool with no fence around it but the door leading outside has a fly screen door that automatically shuts (its on a gear thing if that makes sense). I have a 6 month old daughter.
I casually mentioned the fact that there was no fence around their pool, and they said they are never going to get one because they dont need to. He said to me that (in his own words) "it's good that there's no fence because it's going to increase our vigilance and we'll just watch the child".
The fact that he has dismissed my worries so casually is freaking me out!! I can't stop thinking about that damn pool outside his house, and it's been worse since there was a tragic child drowning accident in my local area. Does anybody else think my anxiety regarding this is valid? my partner thinks I am being anxious, since I mentioned I have always had bad dreams about my DD falling into pools and having to rescue her since she was born. I just feel scared about two things regarding child safety- pools and car accidents! I just think that these accidents happen so easily and in regards to these two things the consequences can be extreme.
I am thinking I will just never let my daughter be babysat by them ever. I have always felt funny about him but now that I have a child I can't ignore how angry he makes me.. he is always giving us terrible parenting advice even though he had literally nothing to do with his own children until they were all adults, hes never even changed a nappy. He just doesn't know a thing about children and sees in black and white. He doesn't understand that accidents happen in literally seconds. I dont know why but my partner looks up to him still and really listens to his advice.
So anyway, sorry I am kind of ranting but I feel jittery and angry thinking about it! Am I a raving loony and letting my anxiety take control, or would you feel worried too?