Dh and I are gong through a very rough patch. We fight nearly every day. I tend to hold a grudge which I've got to learn to let go. A huge thing for me lately over quite a while is simply not feeling loved. Ive been plugging along each day feeling worse and worse. I've discussed with him my feelings. And to the point of being extremely blunt and saying what I want is simple things like an I love you note etc . We talked a bit more and he said from me he wants more respect. I am really struggling with this as over the last few months our family has nearly been torn apart by his actions (not cheating it's to do with his daughter), he's lied continuously, did things sneakily, shoots me down whenever I have tried to talk to him. He's told me my feelings are stupid and why would I feel that way. Yet he wants me to respect him. How ? .?