I have moments with my 3yo, she makes me so angry sometimes! I admit I haven't always handled it brilliantly. I often find myself closing my eyes, taking a few deep breaths and forcing myself the calm down. I try to put the behaviour in context too - is she tired? Bored? Hungry? Does it really matter if she does x?
If I'm really at the end of my rope I put her in her room for 10mins. It gives us both a chance to chill out.
i had moments with ds when he was 2, he was always a good natured child, never any tantrums, never misbehaved much, but he started talking later and he used to cry, scream and whine a lot which would drive me insane, and he still (3.5) does it. When he wants something or talks to me he yells and if things dont go the way he wants (eg. legos fall apart) he screams and cries and I just cant bear it for long. so i send him to his room. I did smack him a few times and moved him roughly when he refused to go to his room but I felt awful after and apologised, explained and talked to him. DD is almost 2, she throws tantrums, hits and bites and I think dealing with her put into perspective how strict I used to be with ds. She goes for time out when she hurts others or misbehaves but she pushes my buttons less as there is no whining, crying and screaming with her as she started talking early (unless its a tantrum, which is not too often) so I try to be more patient with ds so he doesnt think i love him less.. also if they are tired, bored or sick I cant get angry because I feel sorry for them and try help them cope. I think once you realise the impact of your behaviour you ll get better and more patient. Also make sure you are rested, eating right, minimise stress, dont pressure your self - it doesnt matter if you are late a bit, if the house is bit messy, if you have to miss a playdate etc. I find that I m most stressed when I have someone coming over as I try to keep the house presentable so now I make sure I organise as much as I can the night before (cleaning, snacks etc) when the kids settle for the night..
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