So as a lot of you probably know I'm 8 weeks pregnant and you also probably know that Christmas is coming up! We're going to be telling our parents and their partners on Christmas day kind of as a Xmas present. We have chosen to buy each of them 'World's Best Grandpa/Nan' mugs instead of just telling them verbally.
My partner's parents have been divorced and with their new wife and husband for over 20 years, so really it's a no brainer that they will both be getting one of the mugs.
However my Dad has only been with his girlfriend for 3 years and we've never been close. Our child will definitely NOT be referring to her as Nan or grandma or anything of the sort because I don't particularly like her. Now I'm faced with the decision of whether or not I give her a mug too just to be nice...
My issue is that my late mother never liked my Dad's girlfriend (Dad got with her a month after Mum and Dad separated from a 23 year marriage, so it's understandable). I feel like if I give her this mug it will give her the wrong impression and will encourage my Dad to call her Nan or Grandma which she will NEVER be!
I feel like my mother would be turning in her grave and that I would be stabbing her in the back because when she was alive she was the best Nanna ever and her grandchildren were her world. Whether my Mum is dead or alive she will always be my children's one and only Nanna.
So I don't know what to do... Keep the peace and give the girlfriend a Mug or leave her sitting there awkwardly as Dad unwraps his?