I think you just need to get everyone together and set the rules. How old are your kids? It will probably be hard at first, but they will soon get used to it. You probably need to get your DH on board too though.
We fall into the habit of too much TV/screen time every now and then (usually after I have relaxed rules because kids are sick) and it's hard to reduce the time down again - I find the kids (2 years and 4.5 years) are a bit feral and whingy the first few days but then they adjust. Rules in our house are 30-40mins in the morning after they are dressed/ready for the day, then TV off until 5pm (dinner is at 5.30pm). DD also is allowed to watch for 15 mins while I put DS down for a nap. Setting the 5pm rule is the best thing we ever did - DD sometimes starts asking for TV around lunch time but then will say "I will check if it's 5 o'clock yet" and races off She doesn't complain if I say no as she knows it's not 5pm. We do allow extra screen time on some days if we've been really busy and I know the kids need some additional down time, but this is only rarely so I don't mind.
It'll be hard in the beginning, but just don't give in, we have a weekend only policy, it begins Friday afternoon.
DH used to 'forget' the rule in the beginning, now the kids remind him it's not the weekend.
DD is 10 so her needs are becoming different so if she needs something for school or to send an email to grandparents she does it at the bench.
DS 4, does not know any different.
We don't take iPads out even if it's the weekend, with the exception of long car trips. If we were say eating out we don't take their iPads so we won't use our phones either.
DD got used to it fairly quickly she will occasionally have a little whinge like, so and so from school gets to go to bed every night with their iPad, but mostly they both find other ways to entertain themselves and actually play.
Last edited by sparklebug; 08-12-2014 at 10:14.
I would talk to your DH and you and him set some rules first of what you think is fair, then talk to your DS about what the rules will be.
Make sure that you and your DH are on the same page, that you explain how you see his associations forming and the behaviours that are resulting from too much screen time.
HI Nomia, you and DH can set rules, and make sure you are both determined to stick with them, maybe even keep a chart so the kids can know when their screen time is coming up. Also, be ready with 'alternatives' to screen time to fill in the days eg: visits to the park to kick a ball, bush walk, cooking activities, gardening, whatever you can logistically manage at the time. If you are out and about, then screen time isn't really possible at that time. Also, if you go back to 'normal tv' with no ability to record, then you can roster on a set tv time when the show is actually on and they can look forward to it. eg: if my son wants to watch 'Nowhere Boys', we make that a scheduled tv time at 6pm Sunday (just an example). Hope it goes well for you.
Our family is the same. I must admit i have let it all slip as I am heavily pregnant and just want to rest most of the time so it is easier to let them have their screen time for my sanity. It doesn't help that DH spends alot of his time gaming. Not the best role model. In saying that whenever I feel they need a break I take the devices for a week or so and they have to play with their toys and go outside. They still ask to have them but I just say no. I guess we just have to accept that this is what life is like now. Technology is not going to go away and if its not one thing its another.
I was having this conversation at work the other day about this. Someone was whinging that their kids sit at the dinner table playing on the iDevices. Erm, how about tell them to put them away? Simples.
Subbing too. My kids are computer obsessed and it is starting to worry me a bit. I need ideas!
I also need to implement some changes. Ds and I are waaaayy too reliant on the internet.
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