First of all I am a guy. I have been a regular reader of this site since my first son was born in 2007.
Now my issue may not fit in this topic but I thought it was the most likely one.
I am divorced and seperated from my wife about 4 years ago.
I am currently in a relationship and have been for nearly 20 months and am deeply in love with my current partner.
Now everything was going great until about August last year. Certain things started popping up on her behalf and everytime I found it or questioned her she would get emotional and promise me it'll never happen again. As I said I love this woman very much and was willing to help her out and get her through everything.
Now unfortunately for me, this happened regularly and everytime the same thing would happen with her, emotional and promises etc.
Then other things started coming into it, she was giving money to 'friends' when money was something we could've used. She'd say she was going somewhere and I'd later find out she was somewhere else. No I do not think she has ever cheated on me. That's one thing I am sure of. She used to hang around some people who were pretty much into drugs and dealing and yes she used them, and the drugs have popped up on several occasions. After a while I basically told her that if these people are in her life, I am not. As far as I know they are not anymore.
You know as I am writing this I can see that there is a lot of reasons for why I shouldn't trust her and maybe I shouldn't but my question is to you wonderful folk, am I being an idiot and asking for more issues or do I work through the trust issues and save a relationship that otherwise is the best I've ever had?
I want to work through the trust problems but am I just being a naive moron for hanging around and is it a case of 'a leopard never changes it's spots' or is a relationship worth working for when you love someone so much?