My DF contracts for the Defence. He is currently working in Canberra while I stay at home with the kids (3.5 hours away).
DF has just secured a new contract starting in January but this time it's in Sydney (5.5 hours away). I need to go with him because we are due to have our baby in 3 days and I can't or don't want to have him be away from the baby. This will be his first baby as the other kids (DS 12 / DD 8)are from my previous marriage. Older two children before that. His contract is initially for 6 months with the view of extension for another 12 months. We have decided that we will stay in Sydney for the next 3 years because my DD (15) will be in her last 3 years of high school and we want her to be settled going into her senior years. We will rent our house out here.
My issue. My ex DH has just told me that I cannot take our DD (8) and that she can live with him. My DS (12) lives with him because of his school, sport, friends etc. I have him every second weekend and whenever I want during the week, depending on sport. I try and grab him as much as I can. My ex DH only has our DD every second weekend and nothing more (his choice). Since 2012, I have been in both Melbourne and Sydney (because of the contracting) with DD and my ex DH has had no problem with it. I would fly or drive the kids back to him once a month and share school holidays. He was fine with it. No court or solicitors at all. Now he's carrying on. He even went as far to imply that my DF and I are having a baby and are replacing DD so what's my problem?? Seriously, who says that??
So I guess I need some reassurance. Can he take my DD? Can he stop me going to Sydney with DF (who will DH in June)?
I'm going to call a solicitor in the morning. I just can't believe he's pulling this sh*t now.