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    Default Hi I am new and feeling alone

    Hi I new i miscarried about over a year ago and still struggle day to day with seeing people and their children when I can't try again for a while waiting for partner to want to try is anyone in the same boat I am in

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    Hugs to you! I had my first mc in 2012 and it still stings. Hope you find someone in similar circumstance and all the best X

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    I've had 2 miscarriages in 2 years. The pain will never go away it'll always be there, you just learn to cope with it.
    Seeing families with their babies is so painful at the moment (I've had to remove myself from social media as it just hurts) thinking will we ever have kids.
    Did your partner say why he doesn't want to try again

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    Default Hi I am new and feeling alone

    I went and found something I wrote in a thread the other day that applies to you as well.

    Quote Originally Posted by Goblin Queen View Post
    I was the same as you, desperately wanted kids and DH wanted to wait till we had our debts paid off. I was convinced we would have fertility trouble (a nasty side effect of spending all your time on a parenting forum full of women seeking advice due to fertility issues!) and when he begrudgingly agreed to try because I assured him it would take awhile, we got pregnant that month. I miscarried at 9.5 weeks and wanted to try again straight away but DH still wasn't ready (and had only just come around to the idea of having that baby). This triggered the worst period of my life, I resented him for not being willing to try for a baby along with being depressed about my miscarriage but refusing to seek counseling for it. We almost divorced. I ended up getting counseling, we sorted out our marriage, paid off our debts and tried again. I got pregnant 15 months after my miscarriage. Now we have DS and life couldn't be better, he was worth every second of pain and heartache that I went through before having him.

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    hugs... i have had 7 m/cs over the years and whilst it does get easier with time, it is hard and i understand how you feel.... take one day at a time and i suggest seeing a counsellor to talk things through... I didnt with my first 4 losses but after number 5 i did and it helped a great deal...

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    Default Hi I am new and feeling alone

    Thanks for the reply and partner wants to have money behind so he can support me and kids that's the reason to top it off it would of been my bubs first Christmas it is hard

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    Quote Originally Posted by Firsttimeloss1989 View Post
    Thanks for the reply and partner wants to have money behind so he can support me and kids that's the reason to top it off it would of been my bubs first Christmas it is hard
    I hate christmas for that exact reason. Last Christmas should have been Angus' first this Christmas his second and my 1st mmc should have had her first and I've just had another mmc.

    It sucks so bad I'm so sorry you are going through this

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    Quote Originally Posted by [Mod] Allymumtobe View Post
    I hate christmas for that exact reason. Last Christmas should have been Angus' first this Christmas his second and my 1st mmc should have had her first and I've just had another mmc.

    It sucks so bad I'm so sorry you are going through this
    I was saying this the other day, it is so effed up that you should have a one year old, have just given birth and also be happily excited for an NT scan. So many losses in such a short space of time. Life freaking sucks.

    Sorry to derail the thread, I just don't understand why good people who desperately want children have to suffer losses like these. I hope you both get your happy endings with your rainbow babies.

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