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    Default How do you actually manage to talk to someone when looking after a young baby?

    How do you get help from a psych or support group etc with a young baby?

    I tested on the scale for both PND & PNA not really a big surprise

    I found a psych that was able to do home visits (as I dont drive) but I still struggled with the appointment as I was just focussed on looking after ds the whole time. The first time he screamed the entire time & wouldnt settle so the appointment consisted of me walking around the house carrying ds & the psych & I yelling to each other over his screaming. The second time I was so focussed on trying to prevent him from screaming again.

    All my family & friends work full time so there isnt really anyone who could look after ds for an hour. Dh can start late or leave early once or twice, but not regularly.

    Evenings are complete chaos, I cant really go out then. I havent been able to find anyone I can get in with on a weekend, not many of them have weekend appointments

    Panda are great but theres only so much they can do over the phone

    Ive seen the program offered through QUT but I dont know how id even do a skype session - ds doesnt sleep at the same time every day. I never know when (or if) im going to be able to get him down for a sleep.

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    If I were in your situation I'd have DH take carer's leave one day a fortnight for a couple of months so that you can see a psych regularly.

    Have your psych or GP who wrote your mental health plan or referral to write a note for DH and he will be paid out of his sick leave.

    It's not perfect, but at the moment you need to be able to work through this and put yourself first.

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    Ill find out if that is an option for dh

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    Quote Originally Posted by GM01 View Post
    If I were in your situation I'd have DH take carer's leave one day a fortnight for a couple of months so that you can see a psych regularly.

    Have your psych or GP who wrote your mental health plan or referral to write a note for DH and he will be paid out of his sick leave.

    It's not perfect, but at the moment you need to be able to work through this and put yourself first.
    This is a great suggestion.

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    What @GM01 said. You need to think of it as medical treatment. If you had a broken leg or something you would need to go to doctors etc. And someone would look after DS. This is the same. You really need to look after your mental health. So DH to take a day off. .. Our could you work in a Saturday to see a psych if possible. Possibly he could just take a morning off so you could go to your therapy.

    Hugs.. It's really hard. It was suggested that I see a psych after DD was born due to all the stress with her medical condition. ... But I had no one to look after her so had to take her. It didn't work. It was just too hard to concentrate on the session.

    I really hope you can find a way to work it out as I think it would be very helpful.


 

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