Changed my mind
Changed my mind
Last edited by harvs; 25-11-2014 at 20:21.
1) Her children are nowhere near this boy
2) They do not go to the same school
3) They have no interaction with the boy
I would say if she is concerned - then a general inquiry about how the school prevents bullying or inappropriate behaviour would be better than a direct 'Did you know about this and how are you going to stop this deviant from coming near my child?'
Do I think a town gossiping about what should have been a confidential incident (both on his and the girls behalf) and speculating about his intentions and home life, with full knowledge that it will probably follow him through his schooling is malicious?
You bet I do. There are laws against defamation for a reason. Talk is harmful. Rumours are harmful.
@Kimberleygal1 if you are concerned for the safety of your children then I don't think it's unreasonable to speak to the Principal. Obviously the Principal will be bound by confidentiality requirements, but I imagine he'll be able to address your concerns and discuss the measures that the school has in place/will put in place to keep every child safe from similar incidents (in a general sense, so not specifically regarding this student).
Just thought I'd also add that the Principal at my children's school is very approachable. He has made it very clear to all parents that if they have any concerns or wish to discuss rumours or gossip that they've heard from other parents or on Facebook, then he'd much prefer they make an appointment to see him, so that he can clarify and discuss the matter.
He writes a reminder of this several times a year in the school newsletter because of parents gossiping on facebook and he gets really frustrated with it!
In this situation I imagine he'd much rather parents come to him with their concerns that discuss it with others.
Last edited by sky1; 26-11-2014 at 06:58.
My issue here isn't that she is discussing her concerns. She has pretty clearly said she recognises there isn't going to be an open dialogue with the Principal and that she wants to essentially let him/her know. We are trying to tell her they know. There are protocols involved and given the child is a CP client the case manager would have had some level of disclosure and a behaviour management plan drawn up with the school.
My concern isn't that she's upset for her friend's child or that she wants to protect her own. It's that it comes across as gossiping and 'dobbing' of sorts when they will already know.
Trust me, his case manager, Principal, teachers are already working towards a plan. Just bc you dont know about it doesn't mean it's not happening. Discuss harm minimisation strategies with your kids, keep a watchful eye and let the professionals do what they are trained to do.
...and why such deep concern that it may come across as dobbing? KG has already said she has a good relationship with the principal,and that she will approach the issue sensitvely. The principal is a professional, and knows how to handle it. If KG jad said 'i will march into the office and demand answers as to what shall be done about this child and how the school will keep them the h3ll away from my child!' Then i would feel concerned about her approach. In no way has she suggested she will do this.
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