With respect, I think some of the details given here compromise the privacy of both children.
So you wouldn't be concerned if a 6 year old that has committed an act of this nature is going to be going to your child's school? Especially considering that this boys classroom will be in the same vicinity as your child's. This child will be sharing the same playing area and the same toilets as ds2.
I think as a parent the only involvement you should have is your personal decision as to whether or not you send your child to the school that this other child will be at.
I think it is a horrible thing that your DS has been through but I think the principal would be derelict in his duty to discuss this or any other child with you at the prospective school. The schools and DCP will be dealing with and whilst your main concern is your DS there has to be grave concerns for the other child and where he is learning this from. I would be beside myself for my child but you have to let the system deal with this and help this other child too.
The school and Principal will already know, you don't need to tell them. They would also be putting measures in place to protect the students and this child.
While I fully understand you being concerned, the authorities are already involved, let them do their job.
Of course it's ok to be concerned.
It's not ok however to discuss this with anyone else - your children, other parents, the school.
I'm not sure if legally you are forbidden from disclosing however it would be pretty poor form to, regardless of what you do or don't know about this child's history.
Instead of talking about this child you could reinforce appropriate and inappropriate play with your children and the importance of speaking up.
The principal will know what they need to.
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I was wondering what others would do in this situation and hoped for helpful advice, not rudeness!
My Friend worked for dcp and she is a foster parent of 3 children. She says that the child's file wouldn't be provided to another school as some have suggested would be the case.
By speaking to the principal would make him aware of the situation. This child will obviously need close supervision to reduce the risk of a simular incident happening again. This is the point!
I understand you are concerned. I would be too. I hope your friend's daughter is OK and receiving counselling or whatever she needs. Same goes for the boy. He's 6. You have to trust the authorities and the school will handle the issues this boy may have. If you don't trust the school to handle things appropriately then perhaps you should be looking into other schools.
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