It depends KG, he should know the appropriate behaviour - if he has been brought up with carers who taught him that. However, if he himself has been a victim of abuse, or seen inappropriate things, then he might not know. Of course, not all victims of sexual assault, assault others. I know 3 of the sweetest siblings who were brought up in a horrific house, and when they were first removed they would pretend to do sexual things with each other - because that is all they ever saw their mother do, in front of them, with strangers all the time. The mother didn't care and she never explained to them that it wasn't something you do, that your private are your privates and all of that kind of stuff. They don't act like that anymore, because their carers have told them what is and isn't appropriate.
I feel concerned for that little boy, it seems that there is or has been something going on in his life that is not right.
I understand that you are conceded though. You'd want to hope that the records were sent to the new school. Is there anyway you can ask DCP exactly what is the procedure - i.e. will records be sent or not. That way you can find out without getting personally involved.
Our school has almost 700 children in it, so you are saying that it is ok for 1400 parents to make an appointment with the principal because there is a rumour going around town that a 6 year old did something inappropriate? Really VP - you of all people, you usually respectful of the authorities and leaving said authorities to do their job etc.
My heart breaks for the little boy....i cant imagine what he has been through and what he must endure every day....... so incredibly sad... he needs positive role models in his life and he needs love and support... what a sad situation he must be in...
as for the little girl... I hope she will be ok and can over come this..
If there has only been one incident and this child is 6, there's no such thing as rehabilitation. Obviously it was inappropriate but it's adults who are labelling this a sexual offence. There's a strong possibility it was a game or experimental for this child, not necessarily sexual at all. A "specialist" is unlikely to see the child at all if that was the only incident and no professional would ever definitively say someone is rehabilitated, they make an assessment about the risk of reoffending.
I understand what you are saying VP, I do. But again, you aren't looking at this from all angles. But I want you to think about this from a different perspective. What happens if one of your kids was sexually assaulted at some point - and lets face it - this is a very common occurrence - the stats in Australia are 3 in 6 girls and 1 in 6 boys will be sexually assaulted as a child.
And what happens if your child started acting out the behaviours they had experienced? You would be ok with gossiping and parents going up to the school and telling the principal everything that happened, that they were worried and scared and they wanted a psychologist to sign off. And worst of all - you yourself would consider your very young child a sexual deviant - rather than an abused child who was acting out behaviours they had learned off someone very nasty. How sad.
Good point about what would I do if my kid has been abused and in turn abused another kid. For starters I would take my kid to a therapist and have that therapist work with the school on an appropriate plan. I would expect the principal to have a plan to protect my kid from gossip and have measures in place to prevent other kids from being abused (by my child or others) in school. I would expect the principal to not divulge any personal details to other parents, but I would expect the principal to outline (in private) to concerned parents general measures that have been put in place to protect all kids from abuse in the school. I would rather a parent talk about their concerns in private with the principal, than go gossiping in the school yard. I don't think anything that Kimberly has done/suggested doing goes against this.
Can I throw a scenario your way? What would you do if it was your daughter that had been sexually assaulted by anther student in the toilets? How would you feel? Would you not chat with the principal and see what measures had been put in place to protect your kid? Or would you shy away from doing this in order to be not seen as a gossip? What if your kids best friend had been the one abused? Would you want to know what measures had been out in place to protect all kids?
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