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    I feel so sorry for the two kids involved. The boy is already labelled and his past dragged up and the little girl will always be known as the little girl sexually assaulted in primary school. She now will live with that forever. It probably didnt need to have an adult label put on it. Both are being gossiped about and both are now labelled. The parents of everybody involved should be ashamed of themselves spreading the information around. It could have been handled so differently. I'm not saying it should have been down played but I think keeping it age appropriate may have been a good start.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kimberleygal1 View Post
    It is sexual assault in the eyes of the law. Because he is under 10years old he cannot be charged. If he was 10 years old and 1 day he would be charged and placed under the care of the juvenile justice team.
    He can not be charged, because at 6 years old, he is not capable of understanding the consequences of his actions in this context. 6 year olds don't know (or shouldn't know) about sexual assault or sexual behaviours. He is most likely acting out due to behaviours that he has seen or experienced without being old enough to understand what they are about.
    Six years old is a long way from 10.

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    So ppl have gone from an alleged incident in a bathroom to being worried that their child might sit next to this boy? What's next - the boy might look at their child or walk past them? Get a grip. If you expect the principal to take you seriously then your concern should be reasonable based on what's allegedly happened in the past, not your worst fear or complete alienation of this boy.

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    Quote Originally Posted by VicPark View Post
    According to google search your definition of deviant is incorrect Attachment 63780
    A deviant has to show a pattern of the behaviour and have some knowledge that the behaviour is wrong and doesn't care that it goes against the societal norm or that's how it was explained to me by a therapist who specialises in working with children who exhibit inappropriate sexualised behaviour.

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    @kg I think you indicated that you felt the child's placement was as bad as the situation he was removed from and that you had first hand information of this.

    It is extremely important that if you have concerns for a child's safety/ well being/ level of care in a foster care placement you notify child protective services. Children deserve to be safe in foster care.

    I know this isn't the point of your post, but if you have information about his safety in a placement then it should be passed on.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kimberleygal1 View Post
    wow so you think this is normal behaviour for a 6 year old? By this age a child should know right from wrong, what is or isn't appropriate. My 6 year old would never think of doing this sort of thing. He knows to keep his hands to himself and that no one touches his private parts, heck my 3.5yr old knows this too. If either of my children touched each other or anyone else alarm bells would ring for me. I sat the boys down this morning and let them know what had happened without mentioning any names and you could tell by the look on their faces they knew this behaviour was not right. Having been sexually abused myself as a child and recently enduring a 4 day trial where my nieces abuser was jailed for sexually abusing them for 4years, the entire subject is raw for me and I will do whatever possible to protect my children.

    In my earlier post I mentioned dh and I used to associate with this child's foster parents. There's reasons for that. In short we saw things we didn't agree with and cut all ties. The poor children are no better off in their current placement than they were removed from. Our ds wouldn't even go near this child from day 1, just didn't like him for whatever reason when he usually likes everyone. My dh's police experience, he knows that behaviour of this nature at this young age is a recipe for disaster, there will be more incidents occurring more than likely. It's not the child's fault but it is how it is. And it is sexual assault regardless how young the perpetrator is. He knew what he was doing.
    This is the comment I am referring too. This child was removed from his parents for a reason. If you believe that the placement is as bad as what they were removed from, please place a child protection notification as that is very serious

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    Quote Originally Posted by PrincesSmelanie View Post
    So ppl have gone from an alleged incident in a bathroom to being worried that their child might sit next to this boy? What's next - the boy might look at their child or walk past them? Get a grip. If you expect the principal to take you seriously then your concern should be reasonable based on what's allegedly happened in the past, not your worst fear or complete alienation of this boy.
    Tell me you didn't really think it was just about a kid sitting next to the boy?.
    - It's about the boy being close enough to another kid in a relationship sense.... Which may end up in the boy possibly following them into the toilets, pulling their pants down and licking heir bum.

    I feel sorry for the little boy and don't want him alienated.. However my kid comes first. Unless a specialist signs off that the kid is rehabilitated/the school has 'iron clad' measures to protect other kids, I wouldn't want to put my kid in a position where they may be sexually abused. My kids safety comes before the boys rehabilitation.

    I am scratching my head as to how people on here can't understand that a parent would be uneasy having their child around a kid with a history if sexually assaulting other kids. I'm sure people wouldnt be putting their hands up to work side by side with a convicted adult sex offender if they knew of their past. And no I'm not saying the little boy is up there with a convicted adult sex offender. Just that it's human nature for people to distance themselves from risk!
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    Quote Originally Posted by VicPark View Post
    True however they don't work in Kimberly's town, they don't know how well resources the local child protection office is etc etc. They can say what they think may happen... But when it comes down to it I would not hold back from doing something to protect my child based on 50-50 advice from strangers online who don't live in the area in question.
    Then what was the point of asking for advice?

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    Default Sexual assault at school *trigger warning*

    Changed my mind.

    I find some of the attitudes towards the boy on here very sad. Gossip is happening. Australia is so small population wise, I wouldn't be surprised if a few parents on this forum from this small town have put two and two together.

    Some great, polite advice has been given.
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