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    Quote Originally Posted by hollypolly View Post
    My MIL is generally really good. But the one thing she does that really bugs me is that she doesn't believe that DD's food allergies (dairy and egg) are real or should be managed by an allergy specialist - "back in my day we didn't have all these food allergies. We just gave the baby the food until they got over it." I think she thinks I am just being a precious first time mum.

    She brings it up everytime I see her. For example:

    " when are you going to reintroduce eggs?"
    "surely one piece of garlice bread won't hurt?"
    "aww.. poor thing is missing out. Can't she just try a little bit of ice cream/cheese/chocolate?"

    And this happens even though she once gave her food that DD had a nasty reaction too! It drives me crazy and makes me so nervous when the in laws babysit!
    I have the opposite problem. My MIL tuts and hmmmms and pulls those 'gee I don't know' faces when I tell her I'm going to introduce him to certain things. She didn't even want him having normal formula due to being formulated from cows milk. She wanted me to give him goats milk formula because 'you just don't know how he will go, they don't use real milk anymore, could give him a reaction.' Mind you he had formula when he was first born due to my milk not coming in yet. I told her I gave him baby yogurt and her jaw hit the floor.

    She questions everything I give him, put on him and always knows a better product I could have used. She has spent my entire sons life tutting and shaking her head whilst reading labels. And everyone wonders why I have anxiety. She does my head and I'm really frightened I may just lose it at her one day. Ive tried gingerly discussing it with DP and his response it 'fine, I'll just tell her not to care next time'. That would suit me just fine, DP!

    Makes me ragey just thinking about her standing there tutting and shaking her head.

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    Mil to my husband about me: 'she never feeds those kids, she doesn't work, she spends all your money. You didn't get me anything for xmas but I bet she used your money and bought her mum a xmas present!' Plus way more... 😳

    How she came up with that was at her house we had to stay at I asked DH to get the kids breakfast= I don't feed my kids
    I don't work, but I'm studying at UNI!
    And DH did buy her a present, but not what she had ASKED for!
    And yes, I did buy my mum a present with OUR money lol
    She's a psycho! Seriously lol

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    Every baby we have had has brought up the same conversation....

    MIL receives baptism invite in post, promptly calls us.

    MIL "why are you baptising the baby Catholic?"
    DH "Because I do not practice any religion and DW does. All our kids are baptised Catholic you know this."
    MIL "But my Mother was christened Church of England, children are supposed to be christened into their Father's families religion, not the Mothers!"
    DH "But I don't have a religion Mum, DW and other kids are Catholic, as babys father, I am fine with it!"
    MIL "when the priest asks if anyone objects, I am going to stand up!"

    Another favourite:
    MIL: "Why do I have to tell you that I'm taking your child on a 3 hour each way road trip? You're at work anyway, you wouldn't have known if you didn't see my photos on Facebook!"

    MIL "why bother losing weight, just to get pregnant and fat again."

    MIL always refers to my kids as 'the smart one', 'the pretty one', 'the ditzy one'. After repeatedly being asked not to label them like that. She does it to her own sons too. Drives me mental.

    SIL and BIL on the other hand, we have nothing to do with them, we see them at family events, but it's always awkward. To my formal wedding, SIL wore a see through dress with fluoro pink undies underneath, and so short, her biscuits were showing. She arrived at DH's cousins formal wedding on BIL's back during the bridal party entrance (neither were part of bridal party) wearing an equally tacky dress.

    Even though my MIL is a right cow, she is also quite supportive in place of my own psychotic family.



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    Quote Originally Posted by Starfish30 View Post
    OMG I hate this passive aggressive stuff. What did you say to her?
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    i took dd and walked out. Im not sticking around to be insulted.

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    That suxs. What horrible people they are.

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    Quote Originally Posted by CitrusRain View Post
    I would love to vent away in this thread but I'm quite sure SIL and MIL somehow worked out I'm on here and actually spy on me. Even with a name change after the first time I worked it out (I shared some very personal feelings on BH about DS1's birth to help someone who was having a rough time and this was brought up to me at a family dinner at the dinner table) they still bring a few things up pretending they got the info from DH.
    What desperado's. Did you call them out on it?

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    Quote Originally Posted by CitrusRain View Post
    I would love to vent away in this thread but I'm quite sure SIL and MIL somehow worked out I'm on here and actually spy on me. Even with a name change after the first time I worked it out (I shared some very personal feelings on BH about DS1's birth to help someone who was having a rough time and this was brought up to me at a family dinner at the dinner table) they still bring a few things up pretending they got the info from DH.
    How horrible!!! They need to get a life

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    @CitrusRain, that's just the lowest of the low.
    I'd create a while new account if I were you.
    Anonymity is worth far more than continuity in my opinion.

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    When dd was 5 months old dh decided to do something nice for me and organised a birthday bbq at our place with our friends and families. This was a big thing for dh who has mdd/bipolar and in a major depressive episode.
    It meant the world to me to have so many people there who cared about me.
    All was going well until MIL started drinking a little too much... and said thanks for giving me my first granddaughter. It will be nice to have a girl at my house.
    I must have given her a strange look because she followed up with "you know when you and dh split up it will all be your fault and then dh and dd can come home and live with me"

    I got up, asked my mum to watch dd, went inside and bawled my eyes out.

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    So after reading other peoples stories I don't have it as bad as what I thought!

    My MIL is more of a show off, know it all & LOVES to tell me a billion times how she raised her 3 children. She had them young, so I guess shes proud?

    But now that I keep hearing the same stories over, I am starting to feel she keeps repeating them to make a point...

    MIL: Whenever either of them cried during the night, I would give them water & they didn't like it so then they wouldn't cry again during the night.....

    Ok?

    MIL: DP at 3 weeks old was going to his cousins birthday parties that would go till late, I didn't change my life for him...

    Ok? I prefer a happy baby in a routine & getting the rest that he NEEDS.

    MIL: DP was walking at 9 months old & by 6pm he would grab my leg & want to go to bed.

    My son is almost 1 year old & isn't walking yet & she is constantly asking if he's walking yet. Umm all babies are different.

    My son also has a bit of a flat head, which is apparently quite common these days. After he was born he had a few complications & ended up in hospital & had to have a blood transfusion, since then I have taken him to the Paediatrician for check ups & he also noticed his flat head but said its absolutely NOTHING to worry about!

    So to start off with MIL was constantly asking about his Drs appointments (which is fine, I am glad she cares) but I had no idea that she had discussed with DP my sons flat head (I even told DP that the Dr said it was fine & he apparently shared that info with her). She starts asking me when the next Drs appointment is, I thought she meant the paediatrician so i told her which was months away (when my son was 10 months old) i had no idea she meant my appointment with the helmet clinic, so then SIL sends a text saying her & MIL were worried that the appointment was so long away bla bla bla. I am glad that they care BUT i told DP what the Dr told me that it was NOTHING to be worried about, so they need to trust me as a mother that I am doing whats right for my son, IM the one who goes to ALL his Drs appointment & IM with him all day, he is FINE!
    We went to the helmet clinic & the Dr said his case wasn't extreme & didn't even need a helmet!

    Oh & the most recent is BIL & MIL came past unannounced. BIL wanted to share that his wife & him are expecting. Still have no idea why MIL had to come over as well? Anyway, BIL lets us know that they wont be finding out the sex of baby & starts sharing story about how someone he knows was told they were having a boy & it turned out it was a girl (Yes i know i have heard all those stories).
    Anyway then MIL chimes in, when I was pregnant with DP i had an ultrasound everyday or week or something & I knew straight away that he was a boy...
    Ok thats great 😕

    Which reminds me no one in DPs family (mainly MIL & SIL) don't realise DP has a life! He works and then in his spare time wants to spend time with his family, us. So he isn't able to answer every phone call, he has his phone on silent for that reason & the last time we were at MIL they all started complaining that he never picks up, ugh. If its important text him. Sometimes they even call me when they cant get through to him.
    They can be a bit much, last time SIL called him just cause she was bored, DP was in the middle of playing with our son & he was left there waiting.

    Sorry if some of these stories seem silly, but I needed to vent cause it drives me crazy.


 

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