Mine isn't as bad as some of these. She can be annoying though.
For example, when DS was a few months old, she asked constantly if we had started solids yet, when we were starting solids, why we hadn't started solids. Even after I explained several times that he was way too little. Which was the cue for "When my kids were babies..." It was annoying.
Then, not long after he started solids we were having ice cream cake for another family member's birthday. I didn't give DS any. He was too little for ice cream as far as I was concerned and he didn't even know what it was. She insinuated that I was mean for not giving him any, then said "All mine had had ice cream by the time they were 6 months and they're all fine!" Meanwhile I'm looking around me at all her overweight (now adult) kids biting my tongue.
She also offered to babysit before he was even born. There was a movie coming out not long after my due date, and OH joked that I had to keep bub inside until after the movie so he wouldn't miss it. MIL says "Oh well don't worry if he comes before the movie, I'll babysit." She then took offence when I explained that no, she would not babysit my newborn as I was not planning on being the kind of mother who leaves a possibly only days old baby to go out to the movies. I then copped the "I've raised seven kids I know what I'm doing" spiel. Again, biting my tongue not to say anything about how most of those kids turned out.
Also she is always either putting my DS hands in her mouth, or putting her hands in his mouth. It's gross, it's unhygienic, and no matter how many times I tell her not to do it she won't f-ing stop. I know that's not a 'sh!t my MIL says' thing but it makes me angry
To be fair though, some of the other MIL's in this thread sound like a total nightmare so I should probably be grateful that mine isn't as much of a crazy as the others
My step mother is passive agressive and my mil is such a martyr its not funny.
With my MIL it's not so much what she says, it's what she does. When she comes over she will restack our dishwasher to how she thinks it should be stacked so it will "wash better". Most of the time you can't close it once she's rearranged it so she has to put it all back the way it was. I don't say anything, I just watch.
I'm often reminded about what a good job she's done with DH, teaching him how to iron shirts etc. never mind that he basically grew up as an only child so turned out pretty well, yet his younger brother is socially awkward because she's smothered him. God help us now that BIL had finished school, she has no one to control!
MIL example: BIL is 18 all his mates are 17. Didn't want to go to schoolies because he didn't want to be harassed to buy alcohol, fair enough. MIL decides to take BIL to Sydney for a week instead and invites BILs best friend/girl he has a mega crush on AND her mother. Their itinerary is jam packed and they're doing everything together. I think the 2 kids have got 90mins "allocated" where they'll be alone... MIL knows about the crush too (she's the one who told DH). What a way to c.ock block him MIL!
MIL is also an over sharer. We found out about her cancer diagnosis about 5 mins before she updated her Facebook status announcing her cancer to the world. And while I appreciate it would have been scary, having worked in a haematology/oncology ward for years she had nothing on these people. She had one surgery and was done. No spread so no chemo, radiation etc. Yet she relied on everyone to do everything for her for months afterwards. (Cleaner and ironing lady fair enough, expecting parents from the school to provide meals for them so she could recuperate...FOR 5 MONTHS!!! She had an adult husband and a 17yo son who would be more than capable if she let them do anything!)
What's with Mil's and dishwashers? I'm having a few dishwasher struggles myself🙉
It must be a generational thing.. I have the dishwasher issue with my own mother!
She occasionally will babysit during the evening if we have an event, we'll leave dinner and everything for her. Our dishwasher is stacked progressively through the day and turned on at bedtime, it's usually 2/3 full by dinner. Do you think my mum stacks her plate, cutlery, cups and anything else in the remaining space? No, she insists on washing it by hand and switching on a partly full dishwasher!
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