Hi there, I am not really using these types of forums usually, but am approaching my wit's end and am looking for some advice.
As a bit of a background, I separated 2 years ago, and have full custody of my kids.
My son is almost turning 5 and is due to start school in January. During the day he is mostly well behaved and everything is fine. But for some reason at night time he turns into this other being.
I read to me kids then my daughter goes to bed when she is told - she is fine. But my son is never sleepy over the past few months.
He is saying 'shut up' to me, he is saying he will hit me, he is whacking me with pillows, he is spitting on the floor, he is trying to rake holes in the leather sofa with his nails, shouting at top of his voice.
I tried settling him early, postitive reinforcement, reward chart leading to present, hot bath with lavendar, ensuring no sugar in diet, audiobooks on a speaker, standing at the door all night putting him back to bed, shutting his bedroom door (I can't do this because he keeps flicking the light switch on and off which gets me worried about the electricity and he also starts ramming the door!) I tried switching the lights off but then he just comes in my room and pulls the sheets off me and starts putting all of the lights on. I tried smacking his legs a few times (didnt like to do this and gave up quickly after as clearly doesnt bother him)
He's been hard to handle for the past 2 years but he went OK a few months ago was in a good routine lights off at 8pm. But for some reason now he is bad and getting worse. The past few nights I put a movie on for him downstairs at least it keeps him quiet better than the alternative.
I dont want to sound melodramatic but it is really mental torture for me as from 8.30pm onwards unless I stick him in front of a movie he is basically trying to antagonise me constanatly. well I am not getting any respite. its 11pm he's still up!!! I dont know what else I can try now apart from the doctors. I been waking him up early but his preschool says he isnt sleeping during the day. he is an energetic kid he never sleeps!! By the way he is well behaved at preschool just seems to be at night time.
Sorry for the long post but hope someone will read and be able to offer me advice on this. Thanks.