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    Default Anyone done marriage counseling?

    Im thinking that marriage counseling is on the cards.

    Just wondering if anyone has done it. Did it help?

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    Yes and yes. We did it after out first baby, it was a big change and we struggled. It really helps to be able to sit down and talk with a neutral person so it doesn't get too heated or emotional.

    I think the success of any counselling really depends on what you put into it. The main benefit is giving you some perspective but it's what you do with those insights that matters.

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    Yes and no. DH didn't say a word so there was no point being there. He has said he would go again if I feel we need it but I doubt it would go any better.
    Make sure you both agree that you need it and to be open and honest.
    My dh just doesn't do counselling.

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    It's benefits really depend on the pair of you. As PP said, nothing changes if only one of you is there. It requires both of you to really invest in it and find a way to be honest with eachother and yourselves. Good luck!

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    Sorry, I've never been to counselling, but i will say it won't work if one or both of you aren't completely honest about the issues you have in both the marriage and individually. And sometimes it can make things worse before it gets better. If he's not eager or willing, though it won't work.

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    Dh is on board. I mentioned it to him today. I said 'Would you be open to marriage counseling' He said 'Yes i would'.

    A good start.

    I wonder if some ground rules might work before hand. Along the lines of we both be honest. We both be open about it all. We dont speak to anyone else about it...i dont think DH would like me babbling about it all to friends etc.

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    Quote Originally Posted by loislane2010 View Post
    Dh is on board. I mentioned it to him today. I said 'Would you be open to marriage counseling' He said 'Yes i would'.

    A good start.

    I wonder if some ground rules might work before hand. Along the lines of we both be honest. We both be open about it all. We dont speak to anyone else about it...i dont think DH would like me babbling about it all to friends etc.
    If DH is on board. . And you are both invested it can and I believe will work wonders. But you have to be in the right place and open to learn and trust.
    Most marriage counsellors will set ground rules at the first session. .. Things like what you talk about in a session stays there. .. No furthering a heated discussion at home etc. They might give you homework too.

    We've been. We had a lot on our plate with our daughter who has a disability and financial stresses etc. It was difficult for us to maintain going as we had no one to watch DD. That said. .The few sessions we did were good and both DH and I would have liked to continue for a bit too help us through get through those early months with DD.


 

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