My 8 year old step son (we get him on holidays, but he has lived with us for 3 mths, long story why he is back with mother) anyway I think that he might have some issues? Firstly he is incredibly good with numbers and maths, loves computers. The flip side is he struggles with social interactions except when they are a lot younger then him. Extreme anxiety when in a new social situation, has started punching his mum. When pulled up in something he is being naughty about, starts rubbing his eyes and face and alternating between saying he doesn't understand and he forgot what the question was.
Now I am just the step mum here and have zero say over anything (although I have a say with my fiancé) but I think there might be something wrong here? Something that needs to be professionally diagnosed, any thoughts? Also fiancé has limited contact with birth mum (only through text, her option) and when he brings it up with her she just ignores it. It is hard when our child support payment is over $1400 a fortnight, fiancé is a good dad, but she has full custody and won't address any issues. DOCS have previously taken them off her for a brief period of time and they stayed with us, but once she was assessed to be ok again, the boys were taken back. How to we help him with what we have to work with?
Sorry if this is rambling, but we want what is best for him, (and his brother) but are at our wits end in how to do this?