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    Default Calling your in laws mum and dad?

    So. ... DH and I have been married for a little over 5 years. We have one daughter. He often calls my parents mum and dad but I always refer to his parents by their names. I just don't feel comfortable calling them mum and dad.
    We have a perfectly fine relationship with each parent. His parents can be a little overbearing and intense but otherwise pretty good. My parents can be annoying too!
    DH says I should call them mum and dad since he calls my parents mum and dad. But I never asked him to he just has. It's just more natural for him. DH says I'm being unreasonable and rude not to call his parents mum and dad. He is being silly now and saying he'll start calling my parents by their names instead of mum and dad if I won't call his mum and dad!
    It just feels unnatural for me but he says I should do it for him and I say I can't. It doesn't feel right.
    So. .. What do you call your in laws and why?

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    I think it would be weird to call them mum and dad, I call mine by their names, or grandma and grandpa, as that is what the kids call them!

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    I call my MiL 'Ma' which is also the two first letters of her name and I call FIL by his name or 'Papa' which is what DS1 calls him. DH calls my parents by their names.

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    I'd feel weird too!!

    I call mine by there first names or nan or pa when our dd is around and it's something for her.

    I couldn't call them mum and dad.

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    My DP calls my parents mom and dad and I call her mother mom, FIL passed away. I can't really offer help because for us its cultural. Your inlaws are your parents kinda thing so it happens naturally, mil and I don't get along she doesn't like me at all but I still call her mom.

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    I could never call my in laws mum and dad. We aren't very close (tbh they drive me insane) but mainly I feel like it would be disrespectful to my mum and dad. That's just me though.

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    DH calls my parents Nan and Pa like the girls do and I call his dad by his first name. I could never call him Dad :/

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    I would never do it, it would just feel so wrong to me. I don't know if that would be different if I didn't have a relationship with my parents, but as it stands there's no way I would!

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    It would be very weird to me to call my in laws Mum and Dad (I like my inlaws). I call them by their first names. I think my in laws would actually be a little freaked out if I started calling them Mum and Dad.

    Ask your DH how he would feel if his DD started calling another man Dad?

    Put your foot down on this one and tell your DH that he can call your parents by their first name if he wishes (seriously its no skin off your nose) but you will not be guilted into calling his parents Mum and Dad. If he asks why just tell him they aren't your Mum and Dad and they are titles you've reserved for the people who have raised you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BettyV View Post
    but mainly I feel like it would be disrespectful to my mum and dad. That's just me though.
    This, my Dad died a couple years after Dh and I were together so I'd feel like I was betraying his memory if I called anyone else dad. Plus I don't have a great relationship with the in laws either.


 

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