This may be a little long, but if anyone could offer some advice, that would be very helpful!
I have three cats, 2 desexed males and a desexed female, all between 3 and 5 years old.
Last night ex-DP (much to my disgust) brought her bosses cat over unannounced and said we were catsitting for two weeks. I don't really want to get into that, but if I had a choice, the cat wouldn't be here. This cat is around 5, male and undesexed.
After the initial staring at each other and skulking around, all four seemed to settle. There wasn't any fighting, hissing or signs of anyone being territorial. So after a few hours of watching them, I went to bed and they were all ok.
This morning, my boys are fine - just following him around sometimes, the other cat seems fine but my girl is very upset.
Normally she's very attached to me, she follows me around, lies all over me, loves pats and hugs and comes to me when I call her. She's been around other cats before, mostly kittens though. She's also the 'boss' - the boys are submissive to her and she's the 'leader' of them.
This morning I woke up and went to the fridge and she hissed at me. I was a bit shocked and sat next to her and talked to her and tried to pat her. She tried to swipe me, bit me and alternated between hissing and growling at me. She's never bitten, hissed, growled or swiped at me or anyone else before. She won't let me, ex- DP or any of the cats near her. She's pretty much constantly growling, anytime one of the other cats moves she hisses and if myself or ex-DP walk near her she hisses and tries to swipe us.
I understand territoriality, but ex-DP and I aren't cats. She has never behaved like this - she has never hurt me. It breaks my heart to see her like this. I don't think she's hurt, but she won't let me close enough to check.
Does anyone have any suggestions or ideas?
This isn't a big house so I can't just separate them all and I feel like locking her in the laundry would make her feel worse.
I just want my kitty back, it breaks my heart to see her like this.