My DH and I have the same ideas mostly. Just when it comes down to how to implement our ideas on a day-to-day level is we will disagree sometimes. When you are busy/tired/stressed its hard sometimes to be calm and level headed and so both of us don't always parent to our own ideals. Usually if one of us is struggling the other steps up to help out (obviously that only happens when both of us are home). I found a parenting book/website that we both really like the strategies offered so we sometimes refer back to that.