Thanks for all your replies, they're really helpful :-) . DD does snack through the day and I'm pretty sure she eats enough. I'm probably mainly worried about when she wakes during the night. What i do is, instead of letting her cry pick her up and I feed her to settle her and obviously my parents can't do that. (Eta, for when i go awsy) If they were to offer her something to calm her down in the middle of the night should I try ebm in a bottle, cows milk or formula? Does she even need formula? Like you said, darcyj, might be different cause I'm not there?!