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    Go formula and don't look back. Happy mummy happy bubby

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    You all make a lot of sense and logically I know I can go to formula or mix feed and he'll be just fine in the long run. I don't understand why I am so emotional about this. I think maybe because at this age they don't do much but eat and sleep, I feel like I'm doing a rubbish job because he's not gaining weight or sleeping well - so I'm kind of doing badly on both of the things that are most important for him now!

    Today I have mostly breastfed but at the last feed I offered 40ml of EBM an hour after a breastfeed and he guzzled it and cried for more. So I gave him another 40ml and again he guzzled and wanted more. He took the last 30ml that I had in the fridge so that's 110ml EBM an hour after a feed! He must be hungry. He has slept quite well today, he's having his third nap and they have all been around 1.5hrs (this one might be longer as I resettled him after the first 40min).

    I'm speaking to the LC again tomorrow and I see my counsellor tonight. I want to breastfeed but I also don't want to be stressing about his weight or about him being hungry all the time.

    I also don't want to lose my bond with my little boy, I love our time on the couch feeding and when he cuddles into me and relaxes. It's so nice and I will miss it so much. He's also my last baby so it's hard to move on.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BubblesK View Post
    You don't have to stop BF'ing completely. Couldn't you mix feed?
    In theory, yes. This is what I'll likely do for now and see how I go. When I did it with DD I found it quite hard doing both though, I felt like I was constantly breastfeeding, pumping, preparing formula, giving a bottle... It was much easier once I went to formula full time as I knew how much she would take and it was easy to manage.

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    Hun just call it and go formula if you need too. I don't give a second thought of how my boy was fed now that he's 3. It's just not relevant anymore.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Goblin Queen View Post
    Oh hun, I've been where you are. DS didn't have CMPI but he did get to a point of Failure To Thrive and I know the stress of constantly weighing and worrying and wanting them to put on weight. Doing all that with PND and diet restrictions...my hat goes off to you. It is okay to give him formula, it is okay to mix feed, it is okay to keep breastfeeding.

    Has he been checked for a tongue or upper lip tie? If your supply is fine then maybe he's not transferring the milk well enough. Although you said you have an LC so that's probably been checked.
    It is definitely stressful! And so frustrating. I hate being in this position.

    No tongue or lip ties, he actually seems to have a great latch and feeds pretty well most of the time. This all adds to my frustration, he looks like he feeds well and my supply seems good so it just frustrates me that he still doesn't gain much weight. I know it's probably the CMPI and there's always a chance he's also having issues with other things that are still in my diet like soy.

    I'm thinking I might ask the LC if I can pop in and weigh him early next week and see if the comp feeding and extra formula has made a difference to his weight. If it hasn't, we'll know something else is going on (like his adenoids which will be getting checked early next year). I would hate to give up breastfeeding only for him to keep having poor weight gains!

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    Quote Originally Posted by lilypily View Post
    Hun just call it and go formula if you need too. I don't give a second thought of how my boy was fed now that he's 3. It's just not relevant anymore.
    I completely agree, I rarely think about how DD was fed and I know that she's a very healthy and happy 3yo.

    I do realise how irrational I am at the moment.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Cue View Post

    I do realise how irrational I am at the moment.
    I don't think you are irrational at all. I cried for months after I put DD on formula even though it was best for both of us. But the pressure is so huge.

    I'm not going to tell you what to do either way, just know formula is a very close 2nd

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    It's the boobie hormones. They are hard to fight. I felt huge relief when I finally went formula and once the hormones went I thought now why was that so hard?

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    I had huge drama feeding my first, I'll struggled so much with deciding what to do... I remember waking up one morning & deciding enough was enough & that I would formula feed, and honestly I suffered a lot of anxiety over it, but honestly it doesn't matter at all, DS is a great toddler, you have done so well to get where you have, try and celebrate that success XX

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    I think that for many women their is a real period of grief when a breastfeeding relationship ends regardless of how long you've fed for or why you stop - especially with your last. So please don't think you're being irrational, it's tough! Be kind to yourself xx

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