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    Default Feeding Decision

    So here are the things to consider:

    - It took a lot of effort to get to this point and breastfeeding is now fairly easy. I'm enjoying BFing and am proud of myself for getting this far (16wks)
    - DS is not gaining a lot of weight. It's not dire but he's slowly dropping down the chart and his weekly average gain is just below what is considered "ok"
    - He's just been diagnosed with CMPI so to continue breastfeeding I have to cut out all dairy and possibly soy as well. It's a lot harder than it sounds, there are milk solids in everything!!
    - he feeds every 2 hours, sometimes more, so that can make things difficult at times
    - I have mild PND, mostly triggered by this constant battle to breastfeed successfully
    - there are suitable formulas for him if we decide to switch to FF (which is what we did with DD, her CMPI was worse though)

    Would you persevere with BF? Is there really that much benefit to continuing breastfeeding beyond this point? Would if be selfish to stop??

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    Of course not, you have been amazing to get this far. Don't beat yourself up, just start trying him on certain formulas till you find one he his happy with. Good luck. x

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    Nope I would go straight to a suitable formula. Bf is great and I did it to 4 months but seriously when they are 3 or older you look back and who cares how they were fed. They are happy healthy toddlers who turn into happy healthy kids. Go with what is easiest on you and just own it and go for it.

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    I would get sick of the diet so I would go to formula. I would struggle with the decision but I think ultimately I would switch.

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    I think you need to do what is right for you and your baby - formula doesn't equal selfish and breastfeeding doesn't equal selfless. It's just feeding. Personally, I would trial the restricted diet for one month and then if I was over it, I'd switch to formula.

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    Remember the priority is to feed your baby, no matter the method... I think personally I'd do the same as Miss Kitty suggested, go on the restricted diet & see how I feel after a week or 2 :-)

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    What do YOU want to do? If you do want to keep going, set short term goals for the restricted diet as Kitty said. If you don't, give yourself a pat on the back for getting this far, don't feel guilt and switch.

    Formula isn't the end of the world.

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    Why don't you see an LC and try those supplemental feeds where you have a bottle of formula around your neck and a thin tube that runs down to your nipple.
    The baby suckles and gets BM and formula.

    That way you get the best of both worlds.

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    Ask yourself what feels good food you and your family. Forget about other people and what they did or what expectations you put on yourself.
    I stopped giving my dd breastfeeds/ebm for a variety of reasons. .surgery... Feeding difficulties plus cmpi dx at 4 months old. I felt pressure on myself to keep doing ebm and pumping but it was exhausting. We switched to allerpro after failed attempts at pepti junior and elecare etc. Long story.
    But what I'm saying is I can understand a bit of the wrestling in your mind that you are going through. In the end I weaned her over after a few months and we just finished up.
    YOU need to do what YOU feel good about and what works best food you. Forget about outside pressures. Good luck!

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    Only you can decide if you want to stop but I just wanted to say you would absolutely not be selfish for stopping! You have done such an amazing job to make it as far as you have xx that is a huge effort!

    I had a terrible feeding journey, a bub who was losing weight and PND and we stopped as 12 weeks. I can only share my personal experience but while I felt "guilty" for stopping (mainly based pressures from horrible people) mentally I felt 100x better. I was happy my baby was happy, she was gaining weight, we were spending quality time together, rather than stressful feeds then expressing. It was beautiful cuddle time instead.

    I just wanted to say again, you have done a friken incredible job to feed this long! Do what feels best for you, your baby will be fed either way xx

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