If I had your concern I'd probably go ahead and do the testing.
I'm sure the result will come back as your baby being from you.
So that will settle this little voice in your head.
TBH if DS was from IVF I would wonder the same. I can see nothing in me in him.
The case of the OP is a little different because a parentage test would only show probability of sample a (dad) and sample b (mum) being parents of sample c (son). But even confirmation that he is genetically your son could raise more questions about your own family tree/heritage. Although that said, if you only tested the parentage of your son, then your own family tree could remain as you believe it to be if you are content to leave it at that and do no more testing/ask questions.
Last edited by clbj; 19-11-2014 at 18:55.
One solution might be 23andme. You can see genetic roots of bubs or yourself without unlocking close relatives. That might be a way of answering questions without doing an actual DNA relative test.
I have had 23andme testing and I am willing to share my results and more details with you so you know what you will see. It's only $99.
PM me if you want to see and I can send you screen dumps of the results.
I don't know what I would do in your shoes. I have an IVF baby but there's no questioning he's mine, we look identically. I don't think I would do it though.
I don't know what I'd do but if it's constantly on your mind and you can't move past the thoughts then maybe it's worth doing.
I would/will totally ask for a DNA test at some point to know if my child is genetically mine/dh's. I wouldn't even specifically wait to see if the baby didn't look like me, just meaning I would take an earlier opportunity to test if it arises. Not exactly sure how you instigate a test like this though. No baby for me yet so will check it out if the time comes. I know it wouldn't change much but it would be interesting and would prevent the clinic from mixing things up in future.
Also, just thought I would say in science we learned that two blue eyed people can't genetically have a brown eyed child. OP, if both you and DH both have blue and baby has brown, I would Google this for more info. Otherwise, if you one or both of you are both blond but with, grey, green or brown eyes and baby is olive skin with brown eyes, not too much to worry about I don't think.
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