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    Default Has anyone ever found out their ivf baby wasnt theirs? dna testing?

    Has anyone ever tested their ivf baby to make sure it is their baby genetically?

    Has anyone had a baby that looked like it came from different ethnicity?

    No negative comments please. This is a genuine question.i love my beautiful baby more than life itself... But not 1 person that
    has met him haven't asked the question about how 'dark' he is.

    And if there was a mistake made in the lab, what would you do? Would you dna test?

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    I guess before you do that - you need to think about what you would get out of knowing?

    What exactly would you do if you discovered that it wasnt your embryo? Will it change how you feel about your baby?

    Would you take action against the clinic? and if you did - might that affect your child later in life?

    to be honest - no, I would not test. I wouldnt want to know.


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    Subscribing because I do wonder if there's ever mix ups.

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    Fertility clinics are such money making business, the very worst thing that could happen to them would be an embryo switch that would close them down. I'm pretty sure tags if there was ever a doubt of a mix in embryo or sperm, they would discard the embryo and tell the patient that it did not thaw or survive.

    I'd be very surprised to hear about such a story happening in Australia.

    My sister (100% same parents) has a very dark olive skin while we are all pretty white. It happens I guess

    If you really have a doubt, and you feel like you absolutely need to know, get tested and get psychological help to help you go through the possible shock.

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    I don't have an IVF baby but I saw this in the timeline and was curious. I've thought about this in the "hospital mix-up" scenario (my son was taken to the nursery minutes after birth so we were split up) and I think I would want to know.

    With what you're talking about, though, it's so much more difficult because you're talking about the baby you carried. Regardless of the genetic material, you felt those kicks and gave birth to that bub. If you decide to get testing done then counselling is a must and it might be worth speaking to someone to help you decide. I think it's unlikely there was a mix-up but there is always the risk of human error, as unlikely as it is.

    Like other posters, I've seen a family member who had dark skin with dark hair and next to his three siblings who were are fair skinned with blonde hair you would've sworn he was the postman's! As he got older, he started to look more like his dad (same nose, etc.) while still being dark skinned and that could be the case with your little man. He may start to look more like you as he grows up.

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    Thanks for responding. I have thought everything mentioned above and more. And I'm happy with him either way....but my mind keeps wondering 'what if' and then I think that if there was a mistake, and he is genetically not mine, shouldn't there be accountability issues? I mean you have people getting sued if they slip in a puddle for gods sake. I'm not suggesting that sueing is an answer, but somehow the clinic should be accountable, so that this doesn't happen to anyone else!
    In a way I'm glad its us and not another family that may be racist or something...imagine that. Then what would happen to the poor baby? Lucky our family is laid back Aussies that don't have any ethnic or racial issues.
    Is it our responsibility to take action on this? Anyone that has been through ivf knows how hard it is without THIS to worry about as well.
    Here's a new comment we received yesterday when I picked up my son from daycare for the first time...." What is dad?....(awkward pause) " we thought maybe dad was a Torres straight islander?" So I laugh it off and watch their faces drop when I tell them we are both white, blonde & blue eyes. Lol. They meant it in a nice way, as there is a baby girl in his group that is a lil islander cutie pie, and yes my son is darker than her too.
    I appreciate your comments. This is the only place I have talked about it outside my husband and mum. No one else knows and the older he gets, the more I feel almost pressured wen people keep asking about him.
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    I don't have an IVF baby but people have asked if my DS1's dad is lebanese, due to colouring. We are both anglo as they come. And then my DD is as white as a ghost lol.

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    I would want to know purely because of family medical histories. If it turns out there was a mix up, I doubt you'd ever know baby's true background, but one day it might help. Especially with different ethnic groups potentially experiencing different health issues throughout life.
    In saying that, that knowledge clearly isn't going to make one ounce of difference to how much you love YOUR child. There's never any doubt that you'll love him to the end of the world.

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    ^ and that's only my point of view. Like others have said, I know families with dark children, like little Spanish kids, and the parents are as white as they come lol

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    I would want to know. Not because it would alter the love I have for my child, but for medical purposes and curiosity sake. Good luck with making the right decision for you xx

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