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    Quote Originally Posted by lil miss View Post
    dd1 says things like 'that girl/boy is sexy'- she hears me call dh sexy, and hears her 17 year old aunty say it.... heck she even describes herself as sexy when she wears pretty clothes... I asked her what it means and she said it means someone looks nice or pretty or handsome. She doesnt/didnt connect it with anything adult as such, if that makes sense? Which is part of the reason I was never overly concerned about this boy saying it to her and tried to let her learn her own ways of dealing with it.
    My ds1 says "he's an idiot sexy head" if his brother annoys him, he thinks you can use it as a compliment or an insult asked him and that's how he explained it he's 5, but I don't think you over reacted as he touched her inappropriately

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    Quote Originally Posted by lil miss View Post
    So just had a call from the school- apparently they dont have parents present when they speak to the kids initially, parents are only brought in if further action is taken. Like hell!
    Can you request a meeting with the principal to make clear you don't want your daughter to be talking about this issue without you present? I would take this issue vey seriously as your daughter trusted you and this may jeopardise her trust in the future is this talk makes her uncomfortable or unsafe

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    Quote Originally Posted by Starfish30 View Post
    Can you request a meeting with the principal to make clear you don't want your daughter to be talking about this issue without you present? I would take this issue vey seriously as your daughter trusted you and this may jeopardise her trust in the future is this talk makes her uncomfortable or unsafe
    Oh I made it very clear I dont want her to be talking about it without me present, and explained why. I was told it was up to the principal and they would call me back.

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    stick with it hun

    If your daughter wants you present, if it will make it better for her .. its worth the fight.

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    Quote Originally Posted by lil miss View Post
    So just had a call from the school- apparently they dont have parents present when they speak to the kids initially, parents are only brought in if further action is taken. Like hell!
    I would be making it clear that your DD was violated in a way that had sexual undertones and as a victim she had every right to have you present as support.

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    I can understand why they may not have the parents of the other child in but i really hope they don't brush your request under the carpet. Very wrong if they do.

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    I'm thinking about this a lot and how our principal would handle it, bearing their age in mind.

    There is no reason that both children need to be in the same room at the same time - I would imagine they would talk to your DD then to the boy in question to ensure that both children have the chance to give their version of events. So, with that in mind I don't see a single good reason that they would have to refuse to allow you to be present.

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    Quote Originally Posted by harvs View Post
    I'm thinking about this a lot and how our principal would handle it, bearing their age in mind.

    There is no reason that both children need to be in the same room at the same time - I would imagine they would talk to your DD then to the boy in question to ensure that both children have the chance to give their version of events. So, with that in mind I don't see a single good reason that they would have to refuse to allow you to be present.
    I was just coming back to say this. If the principal won't allow parents then I would be insisting your DD doesn't have the meeting with the principal and the boy in question. The principal could meet with your DD first (with you there) and meet with the boy next.

    I understand schools have their protocols but given this is a bit more serious then taking someone else's lunch money or pulling hair, and is potentially notifiable, I would want to be present for any interview. I would think the boy's parents would want to be there too (I know I would want to be if it were my son involved).

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    I really don't know. Tbh I just assumed they would be spoken to separately. And so far just from the response I got when insisting I be present, I wouldn't be surprised if the boys parents haven't been told whats going on. Honestly its bothering me now, on one hand I feel fiercely protective of my daughter and what to make sure nothing like this happens again and its taken seriously, on the other hand I get the impression that the school doesn't see it as a serious thing and are kind of sweeping it under the rug?


 

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