When I picked dd1 up from school this afternoon, she was telling me about her day and mentioned a boy (lets call him A), stuck his finger in her bottom and wiggled it round. I asked her to repeat herself so she did, and said they were sitting in library and he stuck his finger in her bottom (from what she said there was no penetration as she had school shorts on but he certainly tried). And he later called her sexy. She has mentioned in the past this particular boy telling her she is sexy, and making her feel uncomfortable with how he speaks to her so she tries to avoid him as much as possible. I asked what she did today and if she told the teacher and she said no because she was scared she would get into trouble.
We spoke about personal boundaries and that its never ok for others to touch you without your consent (obviously I explained in a way she could understand), and I emphasised how important it was that she tell the teacher if someone says or does something to her she feels uncomfortable with. And that she should never be afraid of getting into trouble for telling someone, that its extremely important a grown up she trusts knows about it.
I also spoke to the teacher and told her what dd1 had told me, how it made her feel and she was scared of getting in trouble and that its not the firsf time dd1 has tolde this boy has said something that makes her very uncomfortable. The teacher thanked me for bringing it to her attention and said she will speak to the principal and the principal will speak with both dd1 and the boy.
How would you have handled this? Did I do the right thing? I dont usually step in for dd1, but this made me feel sick to my stomach. I know it could very well have been a joke and the boy not realise the seriousness of it, I remember the boys doing similar stuff to each other in primary school. But along with the comments on more than one occasion and the fact dd1 has previously expressed the way this boy speaks to her makes her uncomfortable, I felt it was time I stepped in.