@Kelly70 Aaahh Fruck it Luv!!! Would've hoped to see a smidge of a squinter by now Will keep and send your way just in case something does show up tomorrow/Wed ok??
Well, I think there's benefits to both and from what I've read it seems the success rate per Cycle for either is about the same. Obviously the $ factor if you're conceiving naturally vs forking out for IUI, plus you can BD multiple times etc as needed.
Doing IUI you have the benefit of knowing when you're going to ovulate, plus using FSH to get the follicle(s) growing might mean you release 2 eggs thus getting more bang for your buck!!! Plus they'll do sperm washing:
Sperm washing & IUI success
One of the secrets to IUI success is the specialized process of washing and preparing the sperm sample before insemination.
Here is how the IUI sperm washing process works:
•The weaker sperm are separated from the stronger, healthier sperm.
•The strong, healthy sperm are concentrated into a high volume in the insemination sample.
•Toxins are removed from the semen and sperm. These toxins may cause an allergic reaction in some women that can hinder pregnancy.
Mind you, I have read that you have a 50% chance of having twins if you conceive naturally in your mid 40's!! To me, it seems like much of a muchness though IUI is a lot more precise with everything.
@MGC Bertie will hopefully give you the benefit of her experience as she's the "Over 40's Poster Girl" for successful IUI
If it were me, I'd be doing both!!! BD with DB and doing the IUI in the same Cycle when I could afford to ( you'd have "beginners luck").
Yet again, I somehow feel that I've been of no help whatsoever!!!