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    Default Does anyone else regret resigning from work when they had kids?

    I love my kids but have never been the SAHM-type. Over the last few years I don't feel like I've been a great mum and that me being home has actually been a bad thing as circumstances led me into depression and the associated behaviours. So the kids didn't get out very much and I didn't interact with them like I feel I should have.

    Financially it's felt like a catch-22. Yes, we can afford for me to stay home in our current situation but we can't afford for me to enjoy being home or even a home big enough for us to live in or to update our car that needs replacing. I don't go out, buy 'coffees' or get my hair done, we can't afford a babysitter to have any time out by ourselves.

    I have the feeling of being 'left behind' in my career and very much unneeded as there are a billion middle-aged mums trying to re-enter the teaching profession after having children wanting the 'perfect' part-time job. I made myself available at DS's school 2nd term for casual before having DS3 but didn't get a single call. I feel like getting my foot back in the door is going to be the biggest challenge when no one will give you a chance. Hell, I couldn't even get on the canteen roster and yet they were re-advertising again this year saying how they can never have too many volunteers...and they don't even know me.

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    I understand where your coming from.

    I am going back to work soon, and while I like being at home with the kids I don't love it. That being said I don't like working that much either so doing both balances it out.

    What about private tutoring or something like that?

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    I did private tutoring through uni for a whole $14 an hour as it was through a company and they didn't provide anything so I also had to purchase things for tutoring out of that money if I wanted anything extra. I also did some tutoring whilst I was teaching prior to having children for $15 an hour as they couldn't afford much but needed the help. At least I had all my teaching materials this time! I wouldn't mind doing tutoring if I actually got paid properly but I'm more likely to take pity on peoples' situations.

    DH did tutoring for all of last year for a young uni fellow for two hours a week and there was an agreed payment of a gift of a cost of $40 for the whole year's work...and he never showed up with it!

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    My nephew & niece get a private tutor (11&7yo) I think they pay her about $40 per hour.

    http://www.tutorfinder.com.au/region/perth/

    Check out some of the rates on this site

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    Check out some if the rates on this site

    http://www.tutorfinder.com.au/region/perth/

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    Yes, I loved my job but I was experiencing pregnancy discrimination. I should have fought harder for myself, and the situation still makes me angry. It has put on the back foot in terms of the financials and stereotyping why I left, making it difficult to re-enter the workforce.

    I'm in a very similar at home situation as you. I try, but my hearts just not in it.

    Thankfully I will have my accounting degree behind me when I do re-enter, and I have the drive to be successful. Doesn't make it any less daunting though.

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    Yes i resigned because just before i had to take early mat leave due to complications we got a new office manager and she was downright mean & i didnt want to work with her so whilst on mat leave i resigned.
    In hindsight i should have got the owner involved about her how she treated me as they were great bosses and looking back they wouldnt have had any idea

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    Hey, I resigned after I had DS3 and found out I was pregnant again, We are also able to afford me being at home actually it's cheaper for us ATM as none are in school and all my pay would be paying for their child care and didn't see myself juggling work and more than 3 young kids manageable(one of my children suffer anxiety and a few other thing) in saying that there's still no extra money for the little luxuries like doing hair etc as you've said also, I'm expecting again and know it will be even longer till all the kids are In School before I can get out and work again but I'm sure as you've said getting back in work after many years at home, I really don't know how that's going to work out or if anyone will look twice at hiring me, maybe I'll need to study something different first to have something else behind me. All the best OP
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    Yes I regret it so much. I had a great job working in a highly sort after job. I worked the days i wanted and was payed very well. I loved work and would want to go every day. If I was getting bored i would just move to another area of the job. Unfortunately when my daughter was born, within a few weeks my son was also diagnosed with autism and my daughter was prem. I took extended leave to care for them. This would have been fine but then i split from my ex husband i could no-longer work the hours i needed to for work as it was rotating shifts. Now i would need to do over 5 months unpayed retraining to even get a chance of getting the job back with no guarantees due to the need to pass multiple medicals and fitness tests. So have been going to university these last few years with my eyes on the prize of my other dream job. 2 years left now.

    I study part time and work to support my family....at the moment by being a payroll accountant. I fell into it 2 years ago and i am good at it and can't escape. I hate it so so much but i would hate to not be working and have no money more

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    I think the biggest hurdle for me will be the childcare too. Next year I'll have 2 at school and two at home and I know that there are currently no more days available at DDs preschool.

    It's quite hard to get childcare at short notice here. Do people usually wait until they have definite work to get childcare, or get the childcare first then gain work? It's so expensive if I wasn't to get work straight away.


 

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