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    Should have told her you are due to give birth anyday now too! She is a woman with no respect or morals.

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    Atleast you have something wonderful to look forward to soon congrats!

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    You will get through this. Might not feel like it now, but you will. Don't think too much about the future, just focus on one day at a time and doing what you need to do at this moment. Which is looking after yourself, your DS and unborn bub.

    I feel so bad for you that you'll be forced to reconcile with your mum. If you go into labour tonight will you be able to get DS looked after and get to hospital ok? Just think about those type of things for now so you're all looked after. Xx

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    Wow! What a letter! Way to go, good on you! She deserves it so well done! Good luck with everything as well. You seem to be one hell of a woman so I'm sure you will pull through

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    Will you have him at the birth?

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    Oh hon, lot's of for you and I wish I was closer to give you the support you need when bub comes along.

    I think in your heart of hearts you know you've done the right thing, especially as you say he is a 'repeat offender' and if that's the case, then he should have been absolutely and unequivocally transparent with everything he did/does.

    I know you'll be grieving for the life you had and the one you envision for you and your children, but I think you have done the right thing, as it is far better to be from a broken home then in one, hon.

    At your next ante natal appointment, please (if you feel comfortable) let the midwife know of your change in circumstances, so at least they can support you and if you feel up to, speak with the Hospital Social Worker, they are well versed in these types of situations and can help immensely.

    Go gently.

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    Good on you for giving her what for
    I know the situation is out of the this world stressful for you. One hundred times more stressful that you have an impending birth hours away.
    Do you have a girlfriend, that is not mutual, perhaps a friend from school or a life girlfriend that you can count on ? Even if she is not near, and you can call her ? and blurt this stuff out to her, and have a vent ? Although I guess that is what BH is for.

    Please please please zone into your inner self right now and your sons. Please try and block this mess out for the time being, so that you can focus on your baby, labour and birth. Please let us know how you are getting on. Big hugs to you

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    Thanks so much all for the support, it means so much this forum is so amazing. I am so drained, what a horrible day. I have ended asking him to pop in to put the car seat into my car as i cant seem to work it out and my belly makes it awkward bending over. The baby capsule was in his car and i asked him to leave it behind this morning but he just took it out and didn't put it in my car. No doubt he'd be loving the fact i have 'needed' him so soon. No one called me back today about getting it installed so useless me has had to ask him for a favor already. I don't want to buckle and agree to stay with him because of the fear of whats ahead of me. I don't want to rely on my mum. Or him or anyone.

    Should i maybe stay split with him but have him still live here temporarily? I just don't think i can cope on my own with a new baby and a toddler and a dog. My god i am being so pathetic. I don't want him here but im scared.

    Unfortunately I don't have life long friends to turn to.

    Ill try and see the GP tomorrow, i wasn't up for it today but ill go and let them know whats going on and see someone about all of this.

    I am so up and down, now i am a mess again. Ill just take each day at a time.


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    Will you have him at the birth?
    I don't want him there. I don't think him being there will help me cope any better. Im sure its a shame he wont see his daughter born, but that's one of the things he disregarded when he decided to be sneaky and deceitful.

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    I don't think you are being pathetic at all. You have no outside support, are days away from birth and your husband is acting like an immature tool. I think most women in your place would be feeling the same way.

    I think you need to do what works for you. On one hand I suspect allowing him to stay but not be together will make him think you've forgiven him, but I can also totally understand you wanting him there. It's a vulnerable time for most of us.

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    I hope you get some support from the doctor. The social worker at hospital may have contacts/be able to refer to support services for you so you can manage without him there. I think you'd be very miserable if he moved back in and it would make life harder emotionally for you.


 

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