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    Default PND or just don't enjoy being a mum?

    Just looking for experiences, is it possible to just not enjoy being a mum without it being PND?

    DS is 5.5 weeks, DD is 2.5. I just don't enjoy the whole Groundhog Day feel to each day, juggling 2 children, the feed, play (maybe) sleep cycles that happen numerous times each and every day.... I'm bored, it's not fun.

    Does this mean I have PND as I'm not enjoying it, or are some of us just not be born to enjoy motherhood?


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    I find this is a question I have been asking myself alot lately. I have a almost 5yo and 6mo and in all honest I dont really enjoy being a mum.
    Sure I love my kids but I struggle with my changing identity.
    I think it doesnt necessarily means we have pnd perhaps we are suited to being a working mum weather that be full time or part time. I know I appreciated my time with dd when I worked part time.


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    I definitely didn't enjoy being a mum initially. I was out of my depth, out of control and just couldn't stop crying for the first 4-5 weeks.
    In my case it wasn't sleep deprivation. I was getting plenty of unbroken sleep and have an amazingly supportive DF.
    It's also not the monotony of routine. I thrive on order and routine but for me it's the boredom in the beginning. No adult to talk to, except here. No brain function being used to capacity. Complete boredom.
    I went to new parents group and I was the "never shut up" mum because I was so desperate to interact.
    Enjoying DS so much more now that there's interaction between us like smiles and chattering and tongue poking.
    For me I think the blues lasted longer than a few days and I pressured myself to do too much too soon.
    But one thing I do know, I will be going back to work when he's 5-6 months. I need to work financially, intellectually and emotionally

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    Of course some people don't enjoy being a Mum! And there's no shame in that... I LOVED having a baby, but a toddler noooo just exhausted all the time and cooking/preparing food and trying to think of games to entertain - yuk. I looooooove my little boy and our moments together but things are getting monotonous and I'm about to have a newborn and will be in your shoes. I'm quite worried I will be bored.

    I expect things will be very different in a few years though, and I might find things to be a whole lot more enjoyable. I think there are way too many phases to childhood to cast a blanket over all of it and assume you'll always dislike being a Mum.

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    I have to say, speaking only for myself that I have realised motherhood definitely has its ebbs and flows.

    I am a person who definitely loses the plot and struggles ALOT when the kids transition in and out of certain behaviour and needs, but once I adapt and get the sleep I need I am a different person.

    Motherhood is so hard, and at times it is so easy to give up. If you really feel like something is not right and it's not going away, please speak with someone.

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    Some of us definitely enjoy it less/more than others! Totally normal. Different people enjoy different things. And some of it is sooooo dull!

    Maternity leave was not heaps of fun for me. I was happy to get back to work 4 days a week at 9 months. I'm much happier as a person and a mum! I adore him but I don't adore spending every minute of the day with him. Being a mum is an important part of who I am but it doesn't define me.

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    Also I really didn't like the baby stage but am enjoying my toddler heaps more!

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    Quote Originally Posted by A-Squared View Post
    Just looking for experiences, is it possible to just not enjoy being a mum without it being PND?

    DS is 5.5 weeks, DD is 2.5. I just don't enjoy the whole Groundhog Day feel to each day, juggling 2 children, the feed, play (maybe) sleep cycles that happen numerous times each and every day.... I'm bored, it's not fun.

    Does this mean I have PND as I'm not enjoying it, or are some of us just not be born to enjoy motherhood?


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    I don't know about the PND

    but it's definitely still fresh/early so it is definitely repetitive and alittle dull plus you have another little one I'm sure it will be a bit more fun' again when bubs alittle older and you can have a more eventful day, maybe talk to your early childhood nurse

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    Of course some people don't enjoy being a Mum! And there's no shame in that... I LOVED having a baby, but a toddler noooo just exhausted all the time and cooking/preparing food and trying to think of games to entertain - yuk. I looooooove my little boy and our moments together but things are getting monotonous and I'm about to have a newborn and will be in your shoes. I'm quite worried I will be bored.

    I expect things will be very different in a few years though, and I might find things to be a whole lot more enjoyable. I think there are way too many phases to childhood to cast a blanket over all of it and assume you'll always dislike being a Mum.

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    I love being a mum.

    However I interpeted that previously as having to be with my kids 100% of the time.

    I will be heading back to work and study when my baby is 6 weeks old. I do not feel guilty. I have a battery that needs to be recharged with stimulation. I can not do that when I am a stay at home mum. I didn't get PND with my other kids but I did get severly depressed as I was repressing who I was long term.

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