I have a question regarding a slightly TMI issue (but I guess there's not much that is TMI in pregnancy, huh!)....I would like to know about the effects of birth on your...shall we say, toilet habits? Please stay with me!
Basically, I have a severe fear of bodily functions including bowel movements and urination. As you can imagine, this doesn't make life easy for me. I have constant anxiety about needing to go to the bathroom, even when I've just been to a bathroom, or even when I'm IN a bathroom. I am mostly housebound because of this fear. It came about after a traumatic experience and since then, my life has revolved around this anxiety and it certainly affects me every single day, as you would expect considering bodily functions are a normal part of everyday life. My pregnancy has been difficult so far but a particular part I've struggled with was the feeling of needing to urinate more - this has really set me back in the progress I was making prior to becoming pregnant.
Anyway, due to this I had been discussing the option of a C-section with my ob. He supports me with either decision, understanding that I am not simply a little bit scared; I have a completely irrational all-consuming fear that stops me from leaving the house.
However, as I progress further in my pregnancy I'm starting to lean more towards giving birth vaginally. (if possible when the time comes, of course!)
My fear with giving birth vaginally is not just limited to the idea of tearing (which I understand does cause some toilet-trouble afterward, even just with the pain of urinating over stitches, etc?) but that I may experience incontinence afterward, which I feel would most definitely send me backwards in terms of my anxiety/phobia. Obviously this is a really undesirable outcome as it will likely affect how I care for my newborn/my mental state/may result in birth being extremely traumatising for me, etc.
Of course, I would hope that it would go the other way - that I would feel so amazed and in awe of my body after giving birth that my fear lessens.
I also understand that after a C-Section, the recovery can be slower and you can still experience problems with bladder and bowels.
So I would like to know about your experiences with either vaginal/cs birth, did you experience any incontinence afterwards, did you have any kind of lasting bowel/bladder discomfort, etc.
Sorry to ask such a personal question, but I really am struggling with the decision, and I would just like to hear some stories from both sides!
(I also realise this probably sounds like a really stupid and unbelievable fear, but no judgement please!)